Greetings, beloved
Parenting is a difficult task that requires a lot of patience, love, focus, and wisdom. I'm not yet a mother, but I will share my experiences on how my biological parents/spiritual guidance were overprotective at some point, and it was annoying to me in my teenage.
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Years back, in my secondary days, I had the privilege to speak to my church mother on the phone. By then, there were phones weren't this Nokia; was my mum's phone I used to speak with my church mother, and my came back from work and saw me with the phone on my ear answering a call, my dad looked at me from head to toe and almost slapped me for speaking with someone well. Ah, 'what was wrong there, speaking with my church mother'. In their mind, so I wt have access to speak with men. 😂😂 I was a teenager with the full package in my body, even though everything in my body was growing new every day. No day walks alone 😂😂. My parents were wired that at the time, but my younger siblings now are using phones, and I asked myself, why aren't they scared of them using this phone? Why do they act outprotective? I noticed it wasn't the case but, you know what my mum did to my younger sister, just recently, my God!' my younger sister at her years grew breasts, big ones. My mother was mad at this girl's growth and she was scared of my sister's growth. You know what my mom did to my younger sister? She boiled water and put it in a bucket, used a small towel, dipped it into the water, and pressed my sister's breast inside; the breast went in. I went to the house and didn't hear things shooting again; I asked my mom why, and she said she was scared of her being raped or having anything to do with a boy, and I was angry. In my mind, I was like, my mom is still having this mindset, and I told her that she would have allowed her to grow, that it was her season, so let her enjoy her adolescence. Mum, let her be, ABA. My mom also stopped her from eating eggs every day, maybe once in a while.
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One of the reasons for my introversion is from my parents. Do you know, throughout my years in nursery and secondary school, I have never gone to the stadiums for match passes and excursions? Of all my siblings, I'm the only one who is very introverted, and my siblings would always sneak out to enjoy themselves while I remain in my status quo 😂😂.
However, I left my parents to live with my spiritual guidance, and they acted overprotective, too, and it was what I didn't like at all. In fact, because of this act, I shouted at my pastor for being overprotective; I told him that I was not a child and that he should let me have my space.
I know they were trying to guide me, but it was over; I couldn't breathe, and I had no space, no freedom. It's good but not good when it comes to children. Children now, are smart. They want to explore, discover, learn, do, fail, encourage, rise, and move forward in life. When a child is overprotective, he or she won't be able to bring solutions to their close cycle, they won't be explored, and they won't be able to understand what failure is and what it can do to a man's growth. When a child is allowed to talk, choose what they want, ask questions, and share their thoughts and opinions, you will see a big difference. And they will see a better version of themselves.
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Nevertheless, Being parents is beyond giving birth; there are other responsibilities or roles parents need to play to mold their children. As parents, you need a positive character to positively influence your children. They would always go the wrong path; you are the right person to direct them, instruct them, and show them the way they should go now and in the future.
I love, I care, and I forgive
I remain @peckypeace
Overprotecting a child can indeed stunt his/her growth and independence, making it hard to navigate the world on their own later on.
Sure, overprotecting children stunt children's growth and a child might not be able to navigate their world. Thank you for stopping by
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