As humans, we tend to feel like we're not doing enough, especially when things don't go our way, even in the slightest way possible. This feeling can lead to negative thinking, which can, in turn, lead to psychological damage. Over the years, I've realized that one thing that causes this feeling is comparison. Comparison, as I'd like to put it, "is the thief of joy." Everyone is different - you're different from your friends - we all have unique personalities. Similarly, things work out for us differently, maybe at different times. I like to view the world as God's creation - He knows each and every one of us by name - He sent us to this world to fulfill different purposes at different times. When you compare yourself to others, especially those who are more successful or wealthy than you, it can lead to negative things like psychological damage.
During my high school days, one of my friends, S, grew up in a not-too-rich family. His parents could afford his school fees, but they were not able to satisfy all his needs and wants. We, the guys in the class, were close friends and no one ever looked down on anyone. After graduating from high school, S suddenly became rich- his wealth appeared out of nowhere. He bought an expensive bike, and when he got tired of it, within two months, he sold it and bought a Black Toyota Camry. S, who used to struggle to buy things, now became a lavish spender who'd buy expensive drinks in clubs and waste them on the ground. No one saw this coming, it happened out of the blue. Whenever my friends and I gather, his name is sure to pop up in our conversations. They say things like, “S was our mate in high school and he now has a car while we don’t.”
Of course, I don’t know what he did to get his money. I don’t really care about that. But, I'm sure if they knew what he did or the things he's doing to get his money, they wouldn’t compare themselves to him. I understand that comparison comes naturally sometimes. But there are positive and negative comparisons. Positive comparison is when you look up to someone higher than you and say “Yes, this person is higher than me, and I’ll struggle, not only to be like them but to surpass them. On the other hand, negative comparison is when you compare yourself with other people and feel like you're not doing enough and you'll never do enough. “This person is richer than me. What am I doing with my life? I'm so useless.” There's a big difference between positive and negative comparisons. To succeed in life and make yourself happier, go with the latter.
Find joy in the little things you have achieved instead of negatively comparing yourself to others. If asked if I ever feel like I'm doing enough, I’d beat my chest and say, “I’m doing just the right amount of “enough.” Yes, there are still many areas where that needs to be brushed, but generally, I'm doing well. When it comes to my academics, I have never felt like I'm not doing enough. Why? Because I'm doing pretty well and I don’t compare myself with others. As I mentioned above, I utilize comparison in a positive way. Looking back, during my first-year days, we had a senior whom everyone always talked about. He achieved a 5.0 CGPA that semester, and I wanted to be like him. When we got to our second year, he was in his third year and won an award of excellence. That day, I told myself that I'd work hard to get that award when I reached my third year, and I did exactly that.
Similarly, on Hive, I am doing just well. Of course, the numbers matter. I believe that as long as I keep working and putting in the effort towards my blog, I'll get to my destination. In all other aspects, I believe I am doing just enough. I'm aware that there are areas to be worked on which is why I'm working tirelessly to become the best version of myself.
Thanks for reading.
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STOPYou have actually said it all. Honestly, I have some cases whereby I compared myself and the position I am to other people and then I noticed it doesn't end well. Sometimes it even affects my self-esteem. But then as you have said comparing can actually be positive and can even give you that drive and urge to do more.
Creo que compararnos no es el camino, cada persona vive sus propios procesos. Sin embargo la observación de sí mismos y los otros puede ser el impulso que se necesita.
Totally we shouldn't compare to lose we should do it to get inspiration and keep working 🔥. But well to me comparisons are not my thing I mean don't like it 😆 so I'll try not to do it (but society doesn't care about this words to much haha).
A reflexive post @justfavour 👏🏽 and good to start the weekend 💜
Cheers 🥳🎉