As I think on my life and the relationships i have,I realize that I don't really have a favourite person.It may seem strange,you know especially in a world where we are often encouraged and expected to have a best friend,close pal,bestie or a soulmate,for me that idea of having a "favourite person" feels too narrow.
I believe that every person in my life brings something unique and special to the table.My family members,my friends,my colleagues and all have their own stories,experiences,impacts and perspectives that they Add to my life in variouss ways.Me not having a favourite person,I feel like I can appreciate and celebrate their differences and personality of everyone around me.
I don't have a favourite person also because I believe relationships are complex.People can be wonderful,beautiful in this way and challenging,tough,and hard in that way,not putting someone on a high scale or expecting much from anyone make me see them more clearly,see them being vulnerable, see their flaws and all and still appreciate them for who they truly are....Human.
Also ro me,having a favourite person can create unrealistic expectations and pressures,when we expect too much from a person or have them on a high scale we start expecting them to be perfect,to always be there for us,to be always available and to never let us down,and when they do,we feel and get hurt,when to me all that from the onset is unrealistic and it can lead to disappointment and getting hurt.
So instead of having a favourite person I develope this habit and sense of appreciation and gratitude for everyone single person in my life.I try to see the good in each person.I appreciate their uniqueness,their help,theit strength,... And all.
Not having a favourite person also help me to avoid comparisons.When we have a favourite person,we tend to develop the habit of comparism,we compare them to others and judge them base on it,it can lead to hurting feelings,ruining the relationship and suggest that you do not appreciate the little the person could offer,you expected too much of him/her,and everyone is not same.
Not having a favourite person allows for me to maintain healthy boundaries in my relationships and walk with people.
No too much attachment,no too much expectations.
Lastly,not having a favourite person makes me feel free,that way,i approach relationships with an open heart and mind without expectations or biases.
That way every person in my life is special and appreciated,regardless.I am not against people with favs,just that on a more personal note, having someone you tag as a "favorite person" makes you expect more from them,which there may come a time they wouldn't be able to meet up smd you feel they hurt you as you weren't expecting such from them....to me we are all humans,we tend to at times, so I rather keep being me,accept what comes,appreciate all and never expect too much from anyone.That way,if you couldn't meet up or do anything we still cool....we humans.
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