There are times in a person's life where you believe you are old enough to make decisions. At that point, many people do not like it when others try to influence their decisions. They believe they know it all, while some have that problem of inferiority complex. They become unhappy when you "order them around".
But you are just concerned not meaning to "order them around" per say. I happen to be someone who does not want any thing to fail, especially if I am in a team. In anything I do, fear of failing is the last thing I think about, so I begin early to work towards achieving success. Sometimes, it doesn't work out well in the end but I am satisfied that I had put in my best without fear.
It happened during NYSC. All corpers had been allocated to different platoons and on a particular night, a competition has been arranged. There would be a drama contest, fashion parade, dance, cooking contest and Mr Macho contest.
I wasn't the platoon leader but when it came to the issue of the competition we were to have, I brought out myself to work and make my platoon win. I was everywhere, directing without being authorized. 😅
First, I singlehandedly chose who would represent us in the fashion parade. Fortunately I went to the same University with the girl and I know she has the charisma, body, looks and steps to cat work 😅on the stage and help us win.
Thank God she agreed and some of us started grooming her more for the role.
For the drama, I had no much input there but for the dance, we were not doing badly. I was among the dancers and there happened to be a part where I would dance so vigorously, almost breaking my waist just to wow the judges with my ibo dance skills 😅
But there was also a point where despite all my efforts, I was given a cold shoulder and that was the point where I felt "I think I will stop telling him what to do ".
That was corper Frank. As if monitoring the dance and fashion parade was not enough, I also began to pry into who and how the Macho man part was going.
The guy Frank had chosen to represent our team for Macho man does not have any body built for that role. I didn't see any six parks in him, hahaha, neither was he huge enough for my liking. I wonder what was my business.
I went as far as finding out his co-contestants from other platoons and found them very big with six parks and all the muscles needed to win. But the guy representing us was not so different from a female athlete 😅.
To worsen the situation, he kept blackmailing Corper Frank , our platoon leader that he needed milk. According to him, he is training for the competition and it is draining him. So he needed milk. 😅 I was the one holding the money collected from platoon members for the event. Corper Frank would always ask that I give him money for milk. At a point I got so upset
One hot afternoon when corpers were taking a rest after mountaineering (journeying to climb mountains), I decided not to rest. Instead I went to the male hostel to look for Corper Frank. I wanted to insist that we changed the Macho man, I also wanted him to talk to male Corpers who had been adamant on paying. I guess I was there at a wrong time. As I knocked and mentioned my name, I was asked to come in. I didn't know I was coming to be insulted. As if they planned it, nearly the whole boys guys in the room teased me.
"Don't you sleep?,"
"Are you the only platoon having competition?"
" Can't you allow Corper Frank rest?"
" Why are you so forward?"
Corper Frank wasn't even doing anything to stop them, instead he just squeezed his face and was trying to put on his singlet to take me outside. I just ran out of the room CRYING. Hahaha. I couldn't hold it anymore.
I thought Corper Frank was coming after me but he wasn't. Instead, I was met by another corper who saw me crying. He asked why I was crying. I kept crying. When he persuaded further,🤝I told him how some male Corpers had shouted at me. He couldn't believe a big girl would cry because of that. But I told Him I wasn't used to people shouting at me 😅. From that moment on, he agreed to be my big brother on camp.
.At the point too, I decided to dislink myself from all activities regarding the competition.
I said to myself "I think at this point, I need to stop telling him what to do"
I didn't dance again nor joined in the cooking. I only gave my friend the moral support for fashion parade cos she went extra mile just to try and win. ..
Finally, my platoon managed to make the third position. The lady did very well with her different attires and cat work😅 but couldn't answer the questions posed. In the end, we took third position but in every other aspects- food, dance and Mr Macho presentation, we came out last. Hahahaha
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We are alike in the aspect of competition. I do everything humanly possible to make sure my group wins whether I am leader or not.
The guys did not try especially the copper Frank, a Leader should be sensitive and discerning towards his fellows. He should have told you from the start that they wanted to be losers so you can chill and not expend so much effort but they chose the easy way out which was to hurt you, but unknowingly they slapped themselves in the face when the results came out.
People in a group should be on the same page, it's either we are all in or nothing.
Finally, where have you been, hope you are good? I really missed you on hive o.
Hahaha, let me start from the last. I have been around but very busy offline. But am trying to be regular again. Let's see what next week brings. I miss you too.
Thanks for your comment, I was really pained by the nonchalant conduct of the Corper Frank. But it's all good, it's called life experience besides that's not why I was there on camp. So we move.
How do you do too? How is work and family? I saw your status this morning and I remembered you again. God bless you dear
Lol... You need to redo that Ibo dance oooo. Your platoon must have shown the panel of judges something they have never experienced before. Haha. I've been in a lot of group work at different stages of my life and I always enjoy being in a group where so many people are so active, it make it hard to know the main leader. Haha.
Groups like that usually push themselves far in competitive events.
Ewoooo... That part about needing milk caught me off guard. What does the macho dude think he's preparing for? An Olympics? Haha. Someone needs to wake him up or get those hot white tea that's served in NYSC camp. Haha.
Wait ooooo... You really cried in NYSC camp? Lol. You are lucky you weren't caught on camera 😂😂.
On a serious note, this is exactly what happens when you are around people who are not as enthusiastic as you are. Do you know that the smartest person in a class doesn't usually have a lot of people that genuinely like him. They talk behind him and say stuff like "this one is overdoing it" or some derogatory statement. The same applies to people who are well disciplined.
Those lads that ganged up on you are just some bums. Haha. No mind them jare.
You ask if I cried on Camp, what about my work place? When I resumed newly, I mistakenly recorded a wrong score for a student and when the father brought the result back, my HOD shouted at me and I started crying. Hahaha. One teacher was the one who asked me if students catch me crying nko? Even the man himself and the HOD were both confused. 😅 Am not used to being shouted at. I was my Dad's pet. Hahahaha . Do you know, If am arguing with hubby, once I say " you are beginning to shout", he will just end the argument. Hahahaha. Because he doesn't want to begin to beg the offender. Hahaha.
Those guys in my platoon really messed me up. After the result I was sad for days. I know platoons who didn't put half of the energy I brought into mine but they got better score than us. That hasn't stopped me. I still like being a good team player any time any day. Thanks for stopping by @kenechukwu97.
Lol, Adore Madam. Everytime I read about your life experience, I laugh out loud because there is always something hilarious about it. Haha
Everyone around you need to be sure they won't shout at you to avoid having to watch you cry. Haha.
Lol, Mr. Athlete Macho! Well, things may have turned out better if Corper Frank and his gangs didn't bully you.
But, it was a win for you because you got to meet a big brother in camp. Hehe.
Yes o, I got a big brother who protected me all through the preying eyes of guys who wanted camp relationship 😅. Thanks for stopping by
Lol. He did well, ooo. He is supposed to be given an award for chasing off fuys like that. It is never an easy task, especially for the persistent ones.
You are welcome 😁.
Your experience seems like a story, the part where you cried after been insulted by the male copers. I think you have the leader spirit in you. You like to take things into the hands and get things done, which is good but it shouldn’t be to much since you weren’t authorized. But you’re really cool, the guys shouldn’t have said all that but that led to you to having a big bro at camp, am sure he treated you well.
You are right. When not authorized it's better to ask for permission to assist. Thanks for stopping by.
That's just it boss, at a point in our life we seem to know it all but no matter how old we grow, we still need guidance. I came in from #dreemport
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Very true. Thanks so much for the visit
You are welcome
I guess you were more active than the rest of your team, which is not an attribute everyone posses. At some point I feel like frank must have felt you were doing more than it is required because not many people really care about such competitions as much as you did.
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Don't mind him. Hahahaha. They were not enthusiastic as I was but when I was taken for granted, I just stepped down and that was how they failed. Thanks for stopping by dear
That is the right thing to do, if they don't appreciate what you bring to the table, let them eat alone.