Whatever the case maybe, these are some things we should consider:
A woman loses her sex urge easily than the man... When a woman has a low sex urge it becomes worst when she is aging...
Many people believe that women always look older than the men because of stress of children bearing and some other stress...
Do African believe a man can get married to an older woman?
Looking at some Biblical examples did age difference matter in their relationship?
Why did God make man first and then make woman, did He want the man to be older than the woman in age?
These and many other things are to be considered when giving a standpoint...
It is believed that women are more active sexually in their 30s and some with low sex drive can easily lose interest in sex as they grow old while the man is still very active sexually but not in all cases and as such some couples take sexual enhancement drugs just to enhance their sexual urge. But this can be easily controlled if a lady marries a man older than her with at least 5 years. That year difference or gap can solve the problem.
It is also believed that women grow older easily out of children bearing and upbringing, but I believe it can be controlled if the woman take care of herself, So this should not be an excuse, but we should be guided and consider making the right choice. If you say it doesn't matter it should remain like that as women body differ from one to another... but note that there are other stress that makes a woman grow older... So it is better for a woman to marry a man older than her...
A typical Africa Parent will never allow their son to marry a woman older than him... Because of what the society will say. The age factor is very important.
God has a reason for creating Adam before He created Eve, there was age difference between both of them. The scriptures teach us that Abraham was older than Sarah his wife, so also was Moses, Jacob, Esau etc...
Now Hivers, what's your take on this topic? I can't wait to read your views on the comment section. Guys, can you marry or date a lady older than you? And Ladies, can you marry or date a guy younger than you? Please support your answers with solid reasons. Let the fun begin.
Age goes a long way when it comes to marriage and other sexual relationships with Africans, except now that we are beginning to find westernization encroaching on our ideals.
With me, the best way to engage in a relationship is to ensure trust, bond, affection, respect and loyalty.
Thank you for putting this wonder thought together. I found you amazing post via @dreemport.
You're right @vmozy....
@davidbright, I believe age difference doesn't really matter. Though in some places, especially in Nigeria, they might be against such..., but I so much believe in genuine love, trust, respect and mutual understanding in relationship or marriage...
Age is just a number it shouldn't determine determine what kind of relationship one can have with each other, relationships is all about understanding, respect and most important love.
I have varied opinion to be age is just a number when it comes to love but generally without a logic.. I am of view to marry a guy atleast 5/6 years older than me..while thinking this I didn't applied the above theory... But reading this make me feel that may this could be a reason for people's general trend of marrying an older guy
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Lemme take the creation part out of the equation. God never created an aging human. Saying Adam was older than Eve is entirely your idea. Aging is death related, and death is sin's consequence. Without sin we won't be talking about aging. According to the Bible if human's were sinless, they will be immortal.
Every other reasons are societally influenced.
It's simply societal perception.
Now the question should be "why do want to you marry?"
Should I revert to societal or half baked religious perception even if I can find what I want in an older person?
What happens to my right to choose?
The Bible you lay credence to says; "He that findeth"..... I have the exclusive right to find.
If I see what I want in a particular vessel, I will marry regardless of the age.
@davidbright it's thought provoking.
You know we are all entitled to our opinion... I might be wrong in my thoughts... I can actually pick something from your reply.. Guess we will just have to leave the Bible out of this...
So back to your conclusion, you mean regardless of the age, you will be fine with anyone you find?.... Hmmmm... Nice though!
Not really anyone per se. That's why I asked, what do you want in marriage?
I know what I want, in a woman. As far as it's within the confines of legality, and the age difference isn't outrageous, I see no reason why I should see what I want and refuse to stick to it, solely as a result of the age difference.
Everyone are entitled to their own ideas, I was simply considering the reasons you put up.
You used the Bible, why should we forget though? 😂
I think I get it now... But is it actually right for a man to get married to an older lady?... I really don't see myself doing that irrespective of whether I see what I want in her. The fact that she is older alone is a turn off for me....
And considering the age difference that's outrageous... Is 10years difference outrageous?
When you talk about being right, by whose standard? Don't forget you said we should take the scriptures out.
If you use the phrase "turn of for me", then it's perfectly understood because it's about your likes and dislikes. I also have mine.
But in generality what determines wrong and right in this matter?
Now to your question.
First of all, it should interest you to know that contrary to popular perception, it's only of recent I got close to a girl I'm years older than, I do prefer people that are my age and or some years older. It was because I believe in reasoning with people, something I thought younger persons will lack. I might have been wrong.
Even the younger person I now closely relate with, it is also due to her high reasoning capacity. We can think at the same frequency.
Talking of ten years difference. If I marry at twenty, a ten year older person will be thirty, so why not?
If I marry at thirty, she'll be forty, I know many forty plus that looks like people in twenties.
It depends on my age and what I want in marriage really.
I repeat. If I see what I want in an older body that is my spec, I see no reason I shouldn't marry.
Or can you pinpoint one reason I shouldn't?
I have specifications, but being younger is not one of it.
I still have the belief that age does not matter in marriage. We can get married to who ever we want to get marry to irrespective of the age provided there is love in between.
Many people are not in line with it but to me, I still have strong belief that age does not matter.
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