Question. Psychology aka Brainy.
In our life we notice that we often are left behind and some people go ahead of us. And they live better life and as we age that gap continues to get wide. In that case, how do you make peace with being lesser than the others? Or how do you make the most of your life knowing others are way ahead and you can't catch up to them. How do you get the most of your life knowing all ships are sailed?
For me I start by focusing on myself alone, it's not a race against anybody and I'm never too late for where I'm supposed to be.
So basically it doesn't matter who seems to be ahead of me, what I focus on is being better each day and improving myself. That was I don't get caught up in trying to catch up with anybody. All that matters is that you're happy.
Definitely as far as life is concern getting into competition with anyone will bring problem.
We are all different in terms of strength, ability and capacity, permit me to say will might be age mate ,but not grace mate.
Indeed, I do believe to a large extent that i do not have anyone on the same level as me. Mostly because we are all uniquely different and even though all factors may seem the same for us, it mostly isn't.
We all have different lives and different experience, therefore we all cannot operate on the same level. So to me it doesn't matter who is ahead, we don't have the same goals.
You are totally right brother it's not about age, is not the strength, is not about the capacity but we don't have to see life as being a competition.
Life is all about contentment and consistency in whatever we do, we can't leave our Lane and run another man's race but we just have to focus in what we do for ourselves.
Nice contribution from you I really cherish you for this, when you take life as a competition that was when the problem emulate from you begin to chase other people goals and put your aside...
however have stated this earlier before now that all we should know is that everyone as is own time ,when you waited for your time you can never be dissapointed
The truth is they might also have their own life challenges that they are battling with but people from outside might not see that and they think the person is the happiest people on earth...
I agree with you on this, there are some things that people on the outside cannot see and it may seem that those other people are better than us but in reality we are doing much better than them.
That is so true,thanks for the response..
From my view of things in life, some peoples we ahead of you while you we be ahead of some on one way or the other even if you're the same age,because we can't be equal.
Meaning that every body is a professional on his /her own professions
Just "give thanks to Almighty God in every situations you have found your self in life" is that not what our holly books told us, so as you're looking that some people ahead of you that's the way how people look you ahead of them this life is not balance.
Don't just worried but be happy!
That is one thing about life as we look up to some set of people,some set of people also in one way or the other look up to us.
I really see reasons in your view about this topic and that is why most times I suggest that we should not at any point in life put ourselves on pressure irrespective of how it looks
Even all this pressure, especially peer pressure can be very damaging, cause at the point of trying to match others people achievement ,you might make a bigger mistake that won't have remedy
That's great point from you man, always be your self don't try to any body just your self. Thanks
The answer is very simple. You gotta see people who are even lesser than you and feel happy and fortunate for yourself. Just imagine, the 2nd richest guy in the world who has shit loads of money that he can buy anything and everything on this planet is still poorer when compared to the 1st on the spot. But that doesn't make him poor.
Similarly, you will always have million above you but ten hundred millions below you as well. Rather than comparing yourself with the higher ones and thinking of what you don't have, compare yourself to the ones beneath you and feel happy about what all you have.
mate you have contributed well truly instead of comparing yourself with people that as gone higher than you why don't you thank God for the people you are gone beyond..
the truth is that we can never be satisfied with what we have on even if we are rich have what we want we will still not be satisfy that is the way human being are
Infact when we celebrate with other that is when we received more blessings I never see the reason why we should because of someone success and become weak
It looks as if they are doing better than we are. But at what price? What did it cost them to be where they are compared to where we are?
Even if they are absolutely ahead of us in everything, we only see what they present to us (like Web 2.0 social media and D.Buzz here). Do they have a big house and a few cars? Perhaps they're in debt up to their eyeballs. Do they work at what looks like a dream job? Perhaps it's not a satisfying as they expected the job to be.
We may be living a boring life or a less exciting life and not have much to show people, but we may be free of debts and doing something we enjoy doing while others are paying a high price to live the high life.
In the end, it doesn't matter what others ar doing with their lives. We shouldn't try to "keep up with the Joneses) because that's a losing proposition for us. We're supposed t live our lives, not theirs.
Definitely I so much agreed with you on this,you have said it all
good question. i think the only way is to really catch up with the sailed ship is to work smartly and not work hard.
i always have the quote in my skull "In life over taking is allow" the fat that someone lower than our age as gone far does not mean we can't go ahead of them again irrespective of the fact age may not be on our side.
one just have creatively strategize and do something meaningful that can help to boost one source of income.
that Is the truth overtaking is definitely allow because every parent will pray for their children to be ahead if that is the case why are we now worry about those little that as gone ahead of us..
However If you don't know where your friend started you their not run with him because if you do you will surely fail
I believe God time is always the best for us
I totally agree with you ma
The answer is very simple. You gotta see people who are even lesser than you and feel happy and fortunate for yourself. Just imagine, the 2nd richest guy in the world who has shit loads of money that he can buy anything and everything on this planet is still poorer when compared to the 1st on the spot. But that doesn't make him poor.
Similarly, you will always have million above you but ten hundred millions below you as well. Rather than comparing yourself with the higher ones and thinking of what you don't have, compare yourself to the ones beneath you and feel happy about what all you have.
One thing we have to know in this life is all fingers are not equal and we don't have to compare ourselves with others because we do not know everything they do or how they started.
Our friends colleagues or family members achieving more than we have actually achieved or as you put it the gap is too much that we cannot meet up to the standard they are living with.
I will say is not something we have to punish ourselves over or get better because of that but I think we have to face it and know how to manage our life's.
The solution to this is for everyone to learn how to be contented with what he or she have being angry won't lead us anywhere or make us achieve more than others, but is the parts which we have to swallow our pride and accept what we have and also know when to reach out to ask for help.
I believe we are all in constant evolution. We have to be a little better tomorrow than today, and a little better today than yesterday.
We will hardly be number one in something we do, but it's not impossible, it's hard. However, we will never be the last in something, as there will always be someone who knows less than we do in something, be it because of inexperience or age.
That's why we have to remain vigilant to always be learning.
I don't worry about this things. I believe we all have different calenders in life so I'd rather focus on my personal development and ambitions that be compared my life with another.
At the end of the day, it's our happy one is with himself as some people that appear quite successful are not all happy and would rather they have your kind of life. So it's important to work on your schedule and life goals. Life ain't no competition.
I love this your question alot of people as kill themselves just because people that their stated together as moved ahead of them but the truth is that is not how far but how well
God's time is always the best if you friend is doing great today that does not mean that you will not make it, it might be that you own time is yet to come and when you time comes it is certain people will also envy you as well..
Instead of spoiling you mind when you see your mate progressing rejoice with them because when yours come people will also rejoice with you..
All I know and believe is that God have a plan for everyone of us and he never fail with is plan. all he do is that he works with time, and no man can push him to work when it is not yet time
All we need is to exercise patient when we do our own time will surely come and when our time comes no one can stop it to happen
This is a very vital one and at first knowing your capacity and ability in life is very vital,I to is through this you will understand that life comes in different view .
Let me say it is not a crime to have people you can't catch up with in life,but you should not limit yourself to that ideology that you can't,all you have to do his to keep on doing your own thing your own,we are all unique in one way or the other,I have a very good friend I looked up to this days cause his achievement really inspired,even duo I know I can't beat him,but I push up myself to actually get to where he is without putting pressure on myself.
Their is something will call fate especially when you finally admit that all is gone and this set of people you can outclassing them,fate might look like a word fkr lazy and unambitious people,but it really exist,but it doesn't means you now render yourself useless because you know this set of people you can beat them
Definitely I so much agreed with you