This question was not very present throughout my life, the answer came a few months ago in a natural but still impactful way.
When I was younger I thought being a man was having a big body and lots of options of women, being liked by them and admired by other guys, being like an alpha male.
Today I am married, that is, monogamy, if you prefer, I also have a child. So I'm not just married, I also have a responsibility that goes beyond keeping myself alive. I live my life with a survival instinct and at the same time a strong sense of debt to these two people who are the basis of my happiness.
Being a single man is easy, basically, you need to have an occupation and not starve.
THIS IS MY MOMENT when I get home after a trip to the market and organize the food in the fridge and in the pantry. My heart fills with joy and satisfaction. It's a mix of a sense of accomplishment with genuine gratitude.
In short, for me to be a man today is to have the ability to provide. Provide food, security, good housing, and many other essential things that give a decent life to those I love and who need me.
After the show comes the party. We all have different views on how we see things until we reach that point and realize it's different.
You've finally gotten that realization, cool.
I see, It's well understood what it means to be a Real Man from your own perspective.
But to me Being a Real Man is a mindset thing and not really about providing, feeding and clothing your loved ones or people around you.
To me A Real man is someone who knows Himself emotionally, Mentally and Intellectually. A Man who stands for what he believes in even if no one approves it, A man who has Self confidence and has killed every atom of self doubt in him, A Man who wants to achieve happiness in life even if he fails he gets up again and chase that goal with no relent and A man who can motivate, Inspires and Impact the lives of people around him positively. Now that's a Real man to me.
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