HEALTH IS WEALTH
Mental health in Africa is an issue that has been going on for ages most especially in Nigeria. It's a situation that has led lots of young star to disarray and made them make wrong choice which of it had been observed by the parent or by a close relatives,it would have been....let me say,a walk in the park and they ( parent and relatives) would have been able to impact positively in the young star mind, but the situation is worse cause even the parent underwent this problem but they never know it was an issues because their parents didn't handle the issues the right way.
A child misbehaving in Nigeria can easily be tagged as a bad child and lots of insult and negative attitude is directed towards the child but deep down the child really is just having some circumstantial situation, some might just do what was accused if them unknowingly to them while some was intensional but instead of the parent to watch and observe the kid behavior and understand what's going on with the kid or try to be sincere about it all, they go with the word that says "SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD" to my own opinion it seems as the most easy thing to do. There's also an adage that says " IT'S WITH A CANE YOU BEAT MADNESS OUT OF A CHILD" but beating a child and tagging a child adds more reasons for any wrong action the child does, and the child knowing fully well it will end up in beating, gradually the child start seeing more reason and accepting the fact that this is who he is and what he/she is, that for the child growing up.
I'm going to talk about my brother's experience from childhood from age 6-15.......... He was always talking things from our parent s without their permission cause he felt if he wasn't giving and he know fully well that our parents are capable of providing those things but because they feel if they don't have it will result in his stealing from someone else which is true to an extent, but my opinion is if you sure sincerity and you give a child what he want from a place of love deep down the child will understand and bear with you when you don't have. I won't go deep in his experience, but I thank God things are going on well...
Conclusion
The most vnluarable reason why parent are the most important reason to establish more peaceful mind and influence a child mental health. Parents should not be surprised at what a child thinks with his/her mind. The parent should stand as a link to the mind of their children and creates an atmosphere or a peaceful environment for your children cos there are in a perfect state to impact knowledge to the child and they should not disregard what the child says instead they should fine a resolution for any situation the child finds him/herself.
Cause if a child face any kind of mental or psychological issues and does not consult the right person for an advice it will like to get the child to misbehave while consulting a friend or someone who can't handle the situation.
As a child or teenager in Nigeria, the easiest person to consult is a friend and they are probably one of the reasons, the child is not in their state of mind but the friend probably came from a different background or society that does things contrary to the child upbringing which damages the child's mental health.
Nice one.
You have really spoken we and I really love your posts, truly parent and relative need to help all this child to have a good behaviour but sometimes the fault is not from the parents or the relative but from the child.
whenever you talk to him or her he will refuse to hear what they are telling him and nowadays even though you are talking to some children they will be replying you negatively and if you beat them they will beat you back which is very wrong.
In the olden days when an elderly person or your parents are correcting you you did not have the right to say any word or to even look at them but not the child of nowadays they won't hear you whenever you say come back here they will not answer they will do whatever they want to do.
And concerning your brother issue since your parents have know that if they did not give him what he wants he will be disturbing them and can take that thing from where they keep it without permission.
Do it is good and is will help such a child not to steal from outside but nowadays children when you continue giving them money every time and the day you did not have they will not understand you all they want is that you must provide whatever the need for them.
So in this matter we just need to be wise and pray to God that God should help us to train our child very well and as you have said is not all the time that we can beat the children.
We need to use three things to discipline our children which are beating word and punishments, these three things must be used at same time.
Because if a child did a wrong thing and you beat him and you see that beating his not helping the matter then you proceed two punishment he will not beat such child but you use punishment to discipline him or her.
And when you see that punishment cannot help the matter the child is becoming too stubborn then you use word by telling him or her sweet word and the word that will touch is hearts or change him for good.
It's not that we will be using a word like causing the child abuse him no you just have to correct with love.
Thank you, I really enjoy your opinion
Thank you, I really enjoy your opinion
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