Yes it is another beautiful moment here again today and kudos to us all on how Will dig it all out yesterday on the topic which u raised as regards
contributing our quota to help in the eradication of the deadly virus called covid-19
I really want to make it a mandate on myself this day's to always come up with a topic to talk about,but trust me this does not stops anyone too from adding theirs too,I have a strong believe that we can only grow and go up in life when we reason together.
Today my set of discussion or topic needs to do with our daily life,I was brought up with an adage which says
"Twenty children can't play together for twenty years.
Literally the word above means you can be with twenty.of your friends for twenty years ,which .wants in the course of the subsequent years to come one way or the other you people would.have depart either on a good terms like getting a job or relocating or on a bad terms in times of argument.or dispute.
But as important as all this thing's are, their is one question attached to all this stats above,which is
WHAT ARE THE CRITERIA YOU LOOK FOR BEFORE CHOOSING A FRIEND OR BEFORE CONSIDERING SOMEONE AS A
In fact you have come up with a very nice topic for today, choosing a friend is something that should be carefully done because a friend can lead you into a bad habit and can be an Unforgettable memory
Furthermore choosing a friend should be one of the important action one should take a says: that show me your friend and I will tell you who you are, really determined the right person you are.
A friend can safe and a friend can give Unforgettable memory if you choose the right friend you will be so excited having a friend why the reverse is the case.
As for me before I take the decision of choosing my friend firstly I will look at the house he or she is coming from which is the first determination, is the person coming from a good home is it someone that will spoil my life or spoil my home all these need to be considered if not you will end up being in a bad gangs and those friend will influence you to change your life completely
Nevertheless having a good friend will really help a lot it will influence you to a good people it will change your life and don't forget you share a lot of things with your friends and they will bring advice when it is being share with a good people they will bring good advice to you a friend can ruin someone life and it can also build someone lifes
If you move with a friend and you have no success I believe it's better you change the kind of friend you move with because your friend can either affect you positively or negatively each of the above you can never be left neutral I would like to hear different people opinion on this because we learn everyday and we still keep learning thanks for sharing this wonderful topic with us
Well said but i dont really think house really matter as such
The Criteria I look for in choosing my friend is;
I agree with this four point you have stated,I believe with is it will help alot at least to know some few things about to the person you want to work with..
Firstly I will say if the person can not add value to you then is not worthy of being a friend..
Trust infact as for me if someone can not trust me I can't continue to move with the person as a friend not to talk of me not trusting the person trust is really very important in relationships
Great one "understanding"were their is no understanding their will always be fight and dispute among each other because a little words might be taken for a different meaning which might cause alot issues.
Yes value is very important when picking friends,a good friend should be able to add value to your life...
Wow good from @megatee. You have really hit the main points.
Honesty @megatee i am really supporting your opinion concerning how to select friends likewise @nikkybabe. You people have said the right thing which i think should serve as the basis of selecting friends
Yeah quite a day it was yesterday with lot interesting feedback and opinions. Been the weekend I hope we see a much better engagements on here today.
Concerning this question, it's quite true. I believe as we grow in age and maturity we tend to lose connection with people who were close to us due to several reasons ranging from growing apart due to distance, people changing from who they once were and so on.
As concerning the criteria to chose before been friends with someone, trust and respect and how they treat people have to rank top in my list. Don't care about their background as long those are these qualities were are good.
Respect. If I show somebody respect and there is a lack of it returned, the thought of friendship doesn't even cross my mind.
Reapect is good but i think what we really need to check out for is compatibility. Bible says in the book of Amos 3vs3 "can two work together except they agree ?"
For me i think this is what we should strive towards.
Thanks @pthker2010 for the question
Hmmm respect is very important in a friendship or relationship but many people underrate it..
respect is important in relationships or friendship but as important as it is any relationship that lack understanding and sacrifice is a mess, in every relationship you mustbbe willing to sacrifice for your partner or others, by doing so you a building a pillar for the relationship
Hmmm understanding is also another great factor that is very important too..
For me, my school friends are like that. We all are busy in our lives, don’t get to meet that often but when we meet, it feels like we are still in school. The same emotions, the same craziness. We talk about school and our boyfriends and it’s so much fun. Nobody judges anyone, a very pure relationship we all share,
I look if they are good people, and if they can respect other people's life. This is the first step.
Respect is for every relation out their, it’s a give and take thing. If you want respect, you have to give it first
Morning dear, thanks God for another beautiful day I think we all spoken and contribute a good answer to the question you raise yesterday.
It is a good idea you made, to raise questions everyday and truly it does not stop other from coming up with another question.
Yes twenty children can't play together for twenty years because when they all grow up, some can relocate another state, some will drive out of the country.
At same time twenty children can play together for twenty year, because if they start their friendship early like, if the children are still at age 5.
You know before they grow up, finish there secondary school and they went to university they can till contact them self.
Because there is facebook, WhatsApp, that can help them to keep it for twenty years.
If I want to choose a friend, I will look at her behavior, brilliant, dressing, the way she talk, the house she come from and the ways she plan for her future
It gives me shivers when @hookup.pop says,
Anyway I don't choose my kid's friends. I plant in my kids heart discernment and they choose their own friends. If their friends are dead beats I will let my kids know what I think, but it is their choice. There is no better time to make mistakes than childhood. As a parent I am there to support and educate these children not to dictate them what they should and shouldn't do.
I'm gonna go off and support and educate them now.
Is that even an option? Can we tell our kids whom to be friends with? If my mom did that, I would have hated it for sure.
Lol,that is just my good way to great though it might look funny ..but wile are all family..
Definitely I so much agree with you on this, thanks for giving me a better response especially your word that
And I must be honest with you that with this your point you have woken up an idea or topic if I may say that I need to let you people talk about,don't know if I should just say it now.
But whatever the case may be am giving you a credit on that anytime am going to discuss such topic,cause you words wake up my instinct on that topic
Thanks for your comment and it as go along way too in getting answers to my question.
But the use of words is vital here as I don't see any thing bad in
Used by you,but others might,just to avoid any case or situation that might bring up issues ok
Enjoy your day here and of all I will love the know the country where you are from too
Ok thank for the correction, i really appreciate, but I see the word as nothing since is a community and we are all friends.
Am from Nigeria
Good but for me the idea of looking at the house or respect doesnt really mean anything like compatibility
I often do not make friends that much, it sometimes comes with drama and I don't like drama. However I've made a few friends that I'm grateful for.
When it comes to friends first thing I check is how they treat other people- what they say when a person leave the room and all of that, also I check how honest they are, then I also take note of how they communicate their feelings.
In fact I really agree with you is not about making much friend but just the few ones that are reasonable and that can be trusted
It's not the numbers of friends that one make that determines your success but the reasonable ones that are available
Yes. It is better to have a useful friends than having lot of them that are not really ready to help.
Good one and can I add to you word by saying bad communication corrupt good manners
For me as a person I so much watch out that in a friend
@blezyn
My friends have to be selfless, honest and should accept me the way I am. Also, I don’t like to be with people who have high set of expectations (I am not being a hypocrite here, even I keep me expectations below the belt). Friends are those with whom you don’t talk for years but then when you do after that, it feels just like you met yesterday.
Well for me what i look for is compatibility and this is always in term of ideology and our perception about life.
Before i consider someone as a friend ,they must show loyalty by been real with me,praise me when i deserve to be praised..scold me when i deserve to be scold..just be real with me