The world is a big place filled with different people, tribes and places...
People are facing a lot on a daily basis but few barely opens up to people on how they feel..
Recently I have noticed that the word "I'm okay" has become just a response which anyone gives at anytime to stop people from questioning them..
When we are asked how we are we use "I'm okay or I'm fine" because we are ashamed of our situation , scared of telling someone your problem and being a burden to him/her, trying to make people see you as the "doing well" type...
Ladies mostly use that word "I'm okay" often and it means a lot if you really understand them..
I'm gonna use an illustration as a guy, most time when guys talk to their girlfriends and she repeatedly says she is fine, it's even worse than her saying it's over.
Bro she is not fine, check yourself out, you have really messed up, you need to start apologising instantly, you might not even know what you did but you just have to apologise until she tells you what you did...
You guys might have an argument or issues and after shouting and talking maybe on the phone,after sometime she stops exchanging words with you and says "it's fine".. You just have to apologise fast or something worse might happen..
But ladies, should that be the best option?
What of if he doesn't know exactly or understand that expression and feels you are okay, you have to speak up.. Tell him what he did that you don't like..
When we are asked how we are we use "I'm okay or I'm fine" because your are ashamed, scare of telling someone your problem and being a burden to him/her, trying to make people see as "doing well" type...
Talking about this now, it's not really bad to express how you feel, I know some people might not be willing to help or assist in any way, some might use it to mock you or belittle you but know this "it's okay not to be okay"
You are sick at work and you say you are fine..
You are broke and hungry, you say you are fine..
You lost your job and you say you are fine...
These situations will surely come and but keeping it inside you because of what you feel people will think about you will make it worse, people get depressed, do what they don't want to do because they pretend to be okay when they are not..
It's okay to CRY
It's okay to FALL
It's okay to FAIL
It's okay to be BROKE
But being SILENT & GIVING UP should not be the best option.
Thanks...
Yes I really like your post ,but did you some people decide to keep quiet about their problem because no one cares ,no one want to help ,I never blame those who decides to keep quiet about their problem because no one will help even if they talk about their problem
They shouldn't just give up..
Even in the bible, you know what zacchaeus passed through just to see Jesus...
Help will surely come...
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This is a sensible post and I believe that this needs to be heard by everyone including those that are not in any type of relationship.
Do you know the recurrent thing about communicating with people? Everyone just shoots 'I'm fine' as if it's the solution to what they are facing, but this ends up causing more harm than good to a lot of people.
I'm a very vocal person but I'm also the type that bottles up a lot of things. I honestly wouldn't want the world to start giving their 2% in everything about me but when it comes to my relationship with my lady, she has to know everything I'm passing through.
Trust me on this, it's better to let it out than to bottle it up as far as we are opening up to the right person. Well Done Bro
Well said bro..
this issue is really affecting a lot of people..
i just wish i know what to do so everyone can see this..
Your post reminded me of something I wrote some time ago
Which perhaps illustrates my thinking about it.
It's here in case you want to read it ;)
I just went through your post now..
This is just the painful part of it... 🙁
Yes =\
And the faster we understand this and find out, the better it will be
When people ask if we are ok, we say fine purely out of habit. Life has it's ups and downs. It's perfectly ok to be down sometimes.