Let the your children be, stop forcing them to be the duplicate of you, if you so desire to change yourself, even in old age, work on yourself and let the children live their own God's given life and fulfil their own purpose in life and not yours.
Yeah, how will you control your child right from birth to adulthood just because you want your child to be like you, have you forgotten that he/she was not created in your own image or likeness rather God's likeness, you only have opportunity and the privilege to be the child's care taker so why force your likeness on him/her.
In today's world, a child have every right to make his/her choice in life, you as the parents are there to guide the child show the child the right way to follow and help the child grow to be the best of himself not yourself.
You had opportunity fo live your life as a child to adulthood and just because you couldn't accomplished certain things due to one thing or the other does not in any way give you the right to force your child accomplished that dream for you. Your child also have his own dream, purpose and life to live so why not just let the child breathe and make his own life better.
I have seen a child who went to school, studied law because his parents wanted him to do so, he while growing up discovered that his father had wanted to be a lawyer right from when he was an child and the mum just love lawyers so they pushed him to study law while the guy loves art and wishes to be an artisan but to fulfil the dreams of his parents he became a shadow of himself, unfortunately for him after years of passionatelessly doing this, he went back to school to study his dream course, today he is in year three passionately performing and he is becoming the best in the school.
Most child might not be lucky, going back to live their dream life after years of living for their parents. So parents stop it, it is damaging the child's life and most times when they seem to rebel you chose ro disown them and abandon them.
A child at 18 years of age should be able to make good choices about life through the parents counsel.
Guide the child to live his/her dream and not yours,
Let them make their choices, dont influence them with your parental influence.
Let the child breathe