Parenting is one of the major work that I see on earth. I believe that it is better not to bring a child here on earth if we know we can't be there for the child. I'm talking put of experience.
A child needs the presence of both the mother and the father if possible while growing up. But if that won't be possible maybe because of work or something, then one of the parents must always be there to cover up for the one that is absent. We know that most times it is not possible for one person to fit in perfectly in the role of the second partner. Because a woman is not a man and a man can't also be a woman. That is just the reality. I know that things can be managed in the absence of one partner.
I was raised without my mother or father close to me. It wasn't easy at all because I had to cry almost everyday asking God what I did wrong to warrant this punishment. Like I said I don't know who my father is. He was far gone even before I was born. A few years after I was born my mother decided to send me to stay with my aunt who live very far away in the city of Jos in plateau state. As little as I was back then I was separated from my siblings. I can't see my mother from the beginning of the year to the end of the year. I can't also see my siblings. I grew up not knowing what my mother loves doing. What her best food is. Who she visits, who her friends are. In fact I don't even know what my mother went through as a widow because I was far away from her. I get to visit home sometime once in three years. And we may just stay for two weeks of less and go back to Jos. Is not like today when we have phones to call our brothers and sisters to jist with them or share our problems with them. Those days when we go back I won't even hear my mother's voice again until any year that we travel back again.
I grew up a lonely child and that made me take a decision that as long as I am alive I won't let my child stay with others. Raising my own children was not even easy either, but because of what I went through as a child we managed everything together. I have people who lived far away from me and wanted to take one of my kids to live with them, but I didn't want history to repeat itself. I decided that they will all stay with me. Today each time I remember how I was raised far away from the people that matters to me, I become very angry because of all the love and care that I missed as a child.
DO YOU THINK THAT THE FUTURE WOULD HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT IF BOTH PARENTS RAISED THEIR CHILDREN TOGETHER?
Yes, I believe so. If I had both parents with me while I was growing up, my life would have different from what it is today. I never got all the attention that I needed. I was also been spanked and beating even when I did not do anything wrong. One thing I will never forget that my aunt always tell me when I do something bad is - can your poor mother give you this kind of food that you get here? When words like this comes out of her mouth, I will just start crying and wishing that I will just stay in the village and manage what ever my poor mother can afford.
I believe that both parents have their roles to play in the life of every child.
Parenting is challenging but it worth it especially when both parents are involved. Thanks for sharing
I love your idea of parenting.
Thanks for coming around.
It is truly irreplaceable 👌
Parenting a child is not for the weak but we see nowadays is actually not worth it. Both parents are important in a child's life.
Not for the weak actually. Parents must be up and doing to get your child ready to face this wicked generation.
Thanks alot
You are welcome
It is always best if children were raised by both parents. The love the child would grow in would be different, there would always be something to show that this child came from a proper home.
Growing under someone can be so tough, I can't imagine how you felt being raised by your aunt. But I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Yes it indeed happened for a reason. If I had not passed through it, maybe my children would be going through the same thing.
Thanks
hug you away, your childhood story made me cry reading it
Hmmm! My dear friend, I have stopped crying over since I got married because my own lessons are enough for me to raise good children all by myself.
Thanks alot
That’s the issue. We can’t compare anyone with our parents even if they are the most wicked soul. I am glad you grew up to be a better person and you didn’t allow history repeat itself.
Yes dear. They say that every one on earth is a student of history. And for me I can't allow that again in my children.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
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Sorry for your experience, truly being with both parents make a difference
That is very true. Thanks for hopping in to make your contribution
The responsibility of parenting is a difficult task and it needs wisdom and knowledge to succeed in this ministry. Without God in parenting, you are on your own.
Yeah. God first because he knows everything about that child.
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STOPThe part that says I grew up as a lonely child hits me so hard🥺
That even when you cannot give any of your child to anyone, if you're in the position to take care of someone's child, I pray you give them a better treatment and hope you treat them just like yours...
Parenting guidance I must say is the best. Thanks for sharing