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I hope you all are doing fine. The third edition of this week's prompt series is
We all know that when a woman gives birth, she's given maternity leave to recover and take care of her newborn. Do you feel the father of the baby should also get such treatment? Is he also allowed to go on paternity leave to bond with his child? Or should he simply continue working as usual.
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A woman gets pregnant, a suffering period starts for her, not in the start but as the time passes things start getting difficult for her as it includes sleepless nights, sometimes pain in the body, not able to walk for long. Also the whole process of delivery if it's natural can be so painful and the maternity leave is not just necessary but a vital requirement for her to recover and develop her baby initially.
What job a father a is doing here? Getting her wife to hospital, waiting outside till the baby is delivered and then going inside to hold the baby while looking at the tired wife (emotional stuff aside). This is clear from these words that maternity leave is necessary and is provided for sure but paternity leave isn't that necessary nor it is provided. Now further lemme answer some of you people thoughts or clear myself deeply.
building relationships?
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Some people might question or think that those days are the initial stage of a baby's development and the best time to make a bonding but we all know that a baby is totally focused on sleeping, crying and making the diaper industry rich in his/her starting days. Also a mother best knows that how to take care of her child in those days because that's a natural thing.
I better know that if dads are provided with a paternity leave they will just rest all day long in the room spending their office time in useless activities and holding the baby just for sometime because they will get tired easily, lol. That little time they can spend with their babies too when they come back from the office duty.
sharing the responsibility
Now another question arises that if not about building relationships but to share the responsibilities. This is a bit authentic one but still i would say that what a child needs in starting days is sleep, milk and change of diapers. It's natural that diaper change is often linked to mothers as well as the breastfeeding so that's what mother does. Also controlling one child at a time for a mother isn't something difficult.
The one effective thing a dad can contribute in sharing the responsibility is to take a minimum two years gap between each child's birth. This makes the job a lot easier for the mothers handling their children alone.
Also if we take a look at the other perspective which is that with maternity leave already there, paternity leave will cause a burden on the economy. What if someone is running a small business and a couple works there... Giving both of them a big leave will affect the business at the larger scale. I know the society nowadays demands equality but sometimes traditional roles are better than these absurd modern demands.
A child won't remember if his dad was there when he was in his growing stages but he will use his father's income. He will proudly tell others that my father does this job and not that his father was there when he was growing or his father changed his diapers. So, to fit the things at their right places, maternity leave is an essential thing whereas paternity leave, in my opinion, is useless.
Well, that's all from my side.
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disagree a little with what you said. I believe that paternity leave can help create a bond between the father and the child, as well as alleviate the mother's workload. But I like your point of view, thank you for sharing.
Yeah but only if the leave is long enough, haha.
Here in Nigeria, couples can't work under the same organization unless they keep the marriage a secret from the organization, so for that reason, there is no problem in giving men paternity leave to enjoy the moment with their wives.
Though some fathers will take that for granted but I am sure there are still good fathers out there who would prefer helping their wives and spending time with the new baby to bond with him.
So I didn't see anything wrong in that if fathers too get such leave at work.
Yep, you are right. It is good if that isn't a burden on anything, but I have heard that these leaves are long and are often unpaid or with less pay so it might effect if both would take the leave
A paternity leave for the father of the baby is good too, at least the wife gets the support she needs.
Yeah but there are some limitations which father can't cross like when it comes to feeding them 😅
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