ADULTHOOD: WHAT I LOVE, WHAT I'LL LOVE TO CHANGE

in Hive Learners3 years ago
While growing up, we all have aspirations as children, we had dreams and expectations. Sadly, most were not realized. Not because we had no ability but partly due to circumstances around us. It was largely because we made those decisions based on our childish minds and level of exposure. Many at times, older people especially our parent made those choices for us which later became our aspirations. We really didn't know what we wanted. Our little minds couldn't behold a lot but those choices made sense to us more than anything.

Being a child has its own benefit and I think the main one is being decided for. Life was easier with fewer expectations. Just be a good boy/girl, obey your parent, be excelling in your academics and you are good to go.

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tell us just one thing you love and enjoy about your adult life

CHOICES

God has made some options available for us as humans and making choices is one of them. It gives us a sense of freedom and responsibility. This is the concept I love most about being an adult. The fact that I can make my choices independent of older people makes adulthood more interesting. These choices can be grouped into casual and life defining.

Casual choices
These are choices we make on a daily bases. They are basic decisions that keep us going. They are not so significant however can be cumulatively important. These include but not limited to choices as basic as what to eat and what not to eat, what to put on and what not to wear, where to live, where to work. Those things might not be so significant compared to life defining choices.

Life defining choices
These are choices that comes with greater responsibility and must be thought through before making decisions. These include a profession or job to do, hubbies, lifestyle to live, who to date, who to get married to, friends to choose. Etc.

These choices actually define who we are and who we end up being. despite being adults, we still occasionally consult with older and more experienced people to make these choices however, the final decision is still ours to make.

In as much as we have the chance to choose as adults, mostly independent of other people, we must also be ready to make good choices and take responsibility for the consequences of our choices.

I personally dislike the attitude of not being responsible for the consequences of choices made especially when the choices has a negative impact on the life of other innocent people around us.

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If all adults decide to be responsible for the consequences of their choices, this world would have been so beautiful to live in.

If you've chosen to have 7 children all because you have freedom of choice as an adult, you've got to be responsible for those children and make resources available for their survival. Its better to have a child and be responsible for him/her than having a team of children and leaving them stranded.

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one thing you wish you can change if you had the power.

One thing I've always admired about children is their innocent mindset. You'll see children of 2 enemies playing together as friends. They are just living their live with no much expection and competition.
One thing I'll like to change about adulthood is making unnecessary expectations of our selves which make us live unhealthy competitive and comparistic lifestyle.
I may not have the power to change this at regards to other people but I've decided to live my life without comparing my self to others.

I strongly believe that We've all been designed to be a success by nature but level and type of success is independent and different.

We all can't be successful the same way else, it will be a boring world to live in. Diversity distinguishes us and confer uniqueness on each individual. We are different from each other and we make choices mostly from our exposure level and available resources hence we can't get equal result.

Using other people's success as reference to set our goals and rate our achievement does not usually yield good result but rather disastrous.

We've got to learn how to run our race alone and focus on our goals based on our abilities and opportunities. If adults can emulate this child like mindset, adulthood will be lot easier and the world will be safer for everyone.

Thank you for Reading

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 3 years ago  

Wow. Great comparing here.
You nailed a lot of realities and it works well to have them imbibed as an adult.

It is literal that there is no food for a lazy adult.

Our little minds couldn't behold a lot but those choices made sense to us more than anything.

Those childish passions birthed what we all desire right now.

I advice never to kill that of any child, it is golden and if they let them be, they ll thrive with the best guidance.

 3 years ago  

Those childish passions birthed what we all desire right now.
I advice never to kill that of any child, it is golden and if they let them be, they'll thrive with the best guidance.

This is very accurate. With proper guidance, a child can aspire and realize those dreams

 3 years ago  

Thanks for really outlining the reality part (PEOPLE SHOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR ACTIONS) the world wants to hang blame on people for mistakes they themselves have made

And those misusing the statement GO INTO THE WORLD AND MULTIPLY are the reason we have children on the street and some becoming potential threats (ROBBERS) to innocent lives and properties.

Allot people needs proper orientation on their wants and urge control so the problems around us can reduce.... Thanks for sharing your view
Always loving reading you @khingstan Cares 🤴✌️

 3 years ago  

Thanks for the comment.
When people think about adulthood, they only consider the freedom that comes with it neglecting the responsibility aspect.

And those misusing the statement GO INTO THE WORLD AND MULTIPLY are the reason we have children on the street and some becoming potential threats (ROBBERS) to innocent lives and properties.

This practice is so common here and I really hope people can change as regards this horrible mindset. Affected children hardly end up well. May God help us

 3 years ago  

Amen oo
God see them through

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 3 years ago  

At times while running your race, you will have to need the help of someone to pull you up when you fall.

Nice post

 3 years ago  

That's very true. We'll always need help from others

You were really broad in this piece, giving another way to look at life as a whole.
This is very interesting, I really enjoyed reading it.
Thank you for sharing this with us.

 3 years ago  

Diversity and different perspective is what makes life interesting. I'm happy you enjoyed reading it