I am an African and I was raised in a full African way and I didn't die rather like you said , some level of cautiousness and fear were instilled in me and I dare not misbehave.
Who born you to walk out on your parents when they are talking to you or who born you well to hiss at your parents or raise your voice at your parents?
Your beating is doing press up 😁😁😁😁
Being too soft is not the ideal way. I believe in balance. Let them feel some mild pain while you add counselling to it. They won't die