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I'm not sure how my parents met and began to have a serious relationship. They both lived in rural areas, but they lived about 50 km apart. At that time, living conditions were difficult, not only because of the lack of money, but also because of the scarcity of transportation, communication and even basic items such as electricity and running water.
My father and mother faced a very difficult life. From an early age, my father worked hard on large farms with my uncles to support the household, as his father (my grandfather) died very early. Over time, he started working in construction, where he learned the trade of bricklayer.
Whenever he had the chance, he would visit my mother on his bicycle. My mother was the first of my grandparents' children to date and marry, which naturally made things stricter for her. My father started building a house in the city with the little money he earned and without anyone's help.
In order to get married, my father had to resign from his job as a bricklayer and use the money from his severance pay to organize the wedding party. At that time, every family's dream was to see their daughter get married both in church and in a civil ceremony, as well as throwing a party to welcome the guests. It was a big celebration and, as the family was large, even important politicians were present.
My parents got married and had three children within the first few years. They didn't waste any time. These days, many people hope to have a more stable financial life before having children. My father started working in the capital and, as he lived in a town a little way away, he spent most of the week away from his wife and children, only returning home at weekends.
This was perhaps one of my father's mistakes: being absent from his family for long years until he retired. He only came home at weekends, and we looked forward to his arrival. He usually brought sweets, and we always asked him for money.
Life isn't always fair and it isn't always good for everyone. Some people suffer more than others, and some work harder than others. My father was a hard-working man who always dedicated himself to providing for his family, and he still works hard.
I once read in a book that, even unconsciously, children end up repeating their parents' mistakes. In terms of behavior, we are their mirrors. Without realizing it, I ended up living a bit away from home, but unlike my father, I make a point of coming home once or twice a week, as well as at weekends. I also realize that, without meaning to, I'm repeating my parents' financial mistake, which was to spend most of their money on credit cards.
My mother, on the other hand, was mother and father at the same time, since my father was absent most of the time. She didn't have much patience with us and often anything became a reason for physical punishment or grounding. Despite this, we were raised very well, and that has brought us this far. I'm proud of what I've become and I think my brothers are too.
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Não sei ao certo como meus pais se conheceram e começaram a ter um relacionamento sério. Ambos moravam na zona rural, mas moravam distantes um do outro, cerca de 50 km. Naquela época, as condições de vida eram difíceis, não apenas pela falta de dinheiro, mas também pela escassez de transporte, comunicação e até mesmo de itens básicos como energia elétrica e água encanada.
Meu pai e minha mãe enfrentaram uma vida bastante difícil. Meu pai, desde criança, trabalhou muito em grandes fazendas junto com meus tios, para sustentar a casa, já que seu pai (meu avô) faleceu muito cedo. Com o tempo, ele passou a trabalhar na construção civil, onde aprendeu a profissão de pedreiro.
Quando tinha oportunidade, ele ia visitar minha mãe de bicicleta. Minha mãe foi a primeira a namorar e a casar entre os filhos dos meus avós, o que fez com que, naturalmente, as coisas para ela fossem mais rígidas. Meu pai começou a construir uma casa na cidade com o pouco dinheiro que ganhava e sem a ajuda de ninguém.
Para se casar, meu pai precisou pedir demissão de seu trabalho como pedreiro e com o dinheiro da recisão utilizou para organizar a festa de casamento. Naquela época, o sonho de toda família era ver filha se casar tanto na igreja quanto no civil, além de fazer uma festa para receber os convidados. Foi uma grande celebração, e, como a família era grande, até políticos relevantes estavam presentes.
Meus pais casaram e tiveram três filhos, logo nos primeiros anos. Eles não perderam tempo. Nos dias de hoje, muitas pessoas esperam ter uma vida financeira mais estável antes de ter filhos. Meu pai começou a trabalhar na capital, e, como morava em uma cidade um pouco distante, passou grande parte da semana longe da esposa e filhos, só retornando para casa aos finais de semana.
Esse, talvez, tenha sido um erro do meu pai: ficar ausente de sua família por longos anos, até se aposentar. Ele vinha para casa apenas aos finais de semana, e nós aguardávamos ansiosos pela sua chegada. Geralmente, ele trazia doces, e sempre pedíamos dinheiro a ele.
A vida nem sempre é justa e nem sempre é boa para todos. Algumas pessoas sofrem mais que outras, e algumas trabalham mais que outras. Meu pai foi um homem trabalhador, que sempre se dedicou ao sustento da família, e ainda continua a trabalhar muito.
Certa vez, li em um livro que, mesmo inconscientemente, os filhos acabam repetindo os erros dos pais. Em termos de comportamento, somos espelhos deles. Eu, sem perceber, acabei morando um pouco distante de casa, mas, ao contrário do meu pai, faço questão de voltar para casa uma ou duas vezes por semana, além dos finais de semana. Também percebo que, sem querer, repito o erro financeiro de meus pais, que era gastar grande parte dos seus recursos no cartão de crédito.
Minha mãe, por sua vez, foi mãe e pai ao mesmo tempo, já que meu pai estava ausente a maior parte do tempo. Ela não tinha muita paciência conosco e, muitas vezes, qualquer coisa se tornava motivo para uma punição física ou para nos colocar de castigo. Apesar disso, fomos muito bem criados, e isso nos trouxe até aqui. Tenho orgulho do que me tornei e acredito que meus irmãos também.
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Marry in early 20 was consider as the best time in past but now days the couples marry after the age 25 mostly. Learning form our own past or form the others past is very important past of life.
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My mother got married when she was 18 and my father when he was 27. When they married, they had children. I'm the eldest and I'm the same age as them. What you said is really true!
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My dad married very early and even at that young age, they didn't waste time before they started to give birth to us. Life in those was tough but was very livable by our parents
Even though life was more difficult in those days, people had lots of children, today couples take their time having children
History does repeat itself unconsciously but we can consciously see our parent's mistake and make amends just like you did.
I'm trying to minimize this repetition. Thank you very much!
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