How I Tackle Argument : Two Effective Ways To Win The Battle

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Humans are complicated, the uniqueness that we have in traits and the kind of knowledge we have are some of the things that are responsible for the kind of arguments that break out among us.

We behave differently, hardly two people behave exactly alike and what one person understands, another may not. The knowledge one person has, another may not have.

When these individuals having different characters and ideologies meet, and expect each other to walk according to their ways, there is a possibility for disagreement.

This is why I respect those who are married. It's not easy to live with another person, someone from an entirely different background with different beliefs, level of maturity and perspective about life.

No wonder, dispute is inevitable in marriage but those who endure enough, often find a way out.

I have been in disagreement with so many people. People just want to be considered right all the time, they want to be worshiped and praised even when they are wrong, (though, what is right or wrong depends on individuals) anyone who decides to question them or rise up to challenge what they believe becomes an enemy.

Sometimes, even when you try to address things peaceably, someone will see it as an offense and will fight you for it.

I used to be someone who always does his best to avoid disputes with people, yet each time I tried to, it was as if I was bringing it right to myself.

Seeing it is inevitable, I had to devise a way to tackle it. I am so proud of myself for one thing, I have never in my life fought anyone.

Not that I am scared, but I don't see the worth, it's something I grew up with. You can challenge me, insult me, and mock me, and I'll not raise my hands to hit you even if you attempted to hit me. I could talk back to you, but it won't exceed that, I appreciate God for that level of calmness, if not my record of fights would have been enormous.

As casual as an argument may look, it has resulted in situations that left people with scars and damages that can not be undone.

It may start easy but if we don't find a way to quench it, it may result in something terrible.

Personally, I don't like arguing, once I discover that you are not ready to agree with me, I go mute instantly and allow you to rant all you can.

They say “a word is enough for the wise,” if the person wanted you to come to terms, he/she would have listened to you from the beginning and not try to fire back words at you.

In such situations, there is nothing you can do, whether you talk, heaven and earth, the person won't listen and if you persist, it may result in something even worse.

Another thing I do is walk away. Sometimes, when the argument is getting me pissed off and I am sure, it would make me say bitter things or react in a manner that would leave me regretting it. I do myself the favor of walking away.

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I don't believe in attacking fire with fire, I will let you say whatever you want in my absence and when you are done and have cooled down, I'll find time and tell you the piece of my mind.

I don't advise defending oneself in the midst of a serious dispute, it always ends up making things even worse. If you can't overlook it, walk away. It won't cost you anything. There's no need to stand and waste your energy firing back words, in the end, you would just make yourself look stupid.