Not All Good Deeds Are Always Remembered
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We are wired differently, as we journey on earth we will come across people with different characters, different mindsets and ideologies. Some of them will be accommodating while others may not. It's life people act funny, it just better for us to take our time to study them and handle them the way they are because honestly, some of them will never change.
I use to have this friend while I was in high school, he is still my friend though. This guy would always come to me when he has need to use a phone. Not that he doesn't have one but his parents monitor his activity on his phone because he was very stubborn. In fact, a point reached where they have to cease it from him permanently and guess what? We started sharing my phone.
Those days, he was always at my house anytime he comes for weekend (he attends a boarding school) He will use my phone to chat on 2go , Facebook and play games. It was a Nokia phone. To be honest with you I use to be inconvenienced by that but what are friends for? I always let him have it when he comes by.
There was a time he came to me and pleaded that I should help him with my memory card, he wants to try something out on a phone, I eventually did, days turned to weeks and I didn't see my memory. he suddenly stopped visiting me till they vacated for that term.
Subsequently, he came one evening to use my phone again. I asked about my memory card and he started telling me stories. I didn't want to drag the talk so, I just let it slide, moreover I was having another one. To be sincere I really like the guy. I trust him so much and I was just trying to protect our friendship. One day he came and pleaded to use my phone and he tarried till night fall. I was waiting for him to go back home but he doesn't seem to want to leave.
Later, he started begging me to let him use my phone for the night, because his phone was not yet given to him. I really didn't want to give him but I did. The following day, I waited for him to return back my phone but I didn't see him. I tried calling and he was not picking. I continued calling and calling with my mom's phone until evening.
After a lot of calls, he finally picked and told me that his uncle ceased my phone. Wow! And you couldn't even tell me? "How did you pick the call then"? I asked him, he said he removed his sim from the phone and slotted it in his mother's phone. Omo! I got so angry. Early the following day, I went to the house and met the uncle and told him the phone is mine. He asked me to prove it. I unlocked the phone and showed him some contacts.
He finally agreed, gave me back the phone and warned me sternly never to give the boy my phone again. They said he is stubborn and they want to him to be remorseful first before they give him back his phone. You won't believe me if I tell you that he still comes by and I still let him use the phone.
Years after, I think I was even done with College then, I was not having a smart phone, so I reached out to him and begged him to help me with his phone so that I can use it to open an account with student wallet (an online, investment platform. It was a ponzi scheme and it has already crashed) but this guy refused. He said he was busy with is phone. I tired to explain that I was not going to take it home, I will just register, invest and give him back his phone when I am done but he still refused.
Gosh! I felt so bad, I couldn't hold it inn, so I told him the little piece of my mind. How could you have forgotten so soon how I helped you with my phone when you were in need and even had my phone ceased because of you? Guess what he said, I am lying, he can't recall ever taking my phone to his house, talk more of having my phone spending a night at his place. Nothing like that ever happened. Well, I wasn't surprise with his response. I just kept mute and didn't say a word again till I left his place that day.
I felt so stupid for giving him my phone all those while, I remembered one time he spoilt the phone I had to fix it with my money and didn't tell even stop him from using the phone afterwards. I just learnt that there are some sacrifices that we should not make for some persons and if we must take the risk, we should just do it as a gift not expecting them to reciprocate it when we are in need.
Are we still together? One may ask, well, of course yes! We are still good friends but I know my limits. I understand the kind of person he is and I am treating him just the way he is. He is a very good person, guess that was just one of his weaknesses and we all have one.
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So funny of him to deny what you did for him. Some people will make you regret ever helping them, but as it is, it's better to help and not expect anything in return. It is in the nature of some people to show ingratitude to you, not remembering your selfless sacrifice to them.
Yeah! You are right ma.. it's best we help without expecting anything in return than put our mind else we would be disappointed.. thanks for stopping by ma 🥰
I popped in here through #dreemport again.
Hehe, see you around ma
I feel you. Some friends really cross the line but we let it slide because we want to retain the friendship. Glad that you're still good friends!
That's just it .. our relationship is far better than our weaknesses... Thanks for reading 🙏🥰
I can understand the situation you faced at that time. But to be honest, I think he didn't do any wrong thing because he has the right not to give his smartphone to you but he refused that you helped him earlier was not good. But I feel you also should not give your phone to him. You didn't limit him when he was crossing his limit.
Whatever you are still friends and right now you also know your limit which is good.
You really got a point here, anyways the past is in the past what really matters is now.. thanks for reading sir🥰
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The rate at which you inconvenient your self just to satisfy your friend is beyond anything I could comprehend. It is fine to want to care for someone but he seems he doesn't have a limit
Now imagine, when it was his turn to reciprocate same kindness he Denied you of it.
Seriously I have learnt my mistake.. sometimes we just need to know our limits when helping others
Yeah exactly, so that we don't end hurting ourselves.
Simple.. 😊 thanks for reading boss 🥰
That's very bad of him Denning what you did for him.some friends cross the line of friendship. It's better not to expect anything when you help someone
That's just it.. I have learned though.. thanks for stopping by
You are welcome
This is just it they will not waste time to deny you i am so happy that you are able to maintain the relationship
It's life dear, but I have learnt a lesson though
This story is relatable, It is so sad how people forget the good we've done in the past for them, people are just self-centred, Well It's good you now know the kind of person he is, and act accordingly.
So sad, but that is life.. seriously, so I just know how to relate with him..
Thanks for coming around mate🥰
It's a pleasure.
I like that you didn't totally cut off ties with the guy in question. Some people tend to forget the good deeds people did for them well others purposely pretend. But either way, it's is always best to do things without expecting anything in return.
#dreemport.
For sure, doing things without expecting anything in return is a saviour lol 😂.. he is such a nice guy, I can't just cut ties with him😁😁..
Thanks for reading hun🥰
You're very much welcome 😊
After all the inconveniences he put you through, he had the heart to deny you of his when you needed it. That was just too harsh!
I still find it hard to believe that you guys will still be good friends but I'm glad to hear that ☺️.
#dreemerforlife
It really hurts me bad but the past is in the past, we all go wrong sometimes.. the guy is very good, we all have bad sides that's all I concluded, so we don't have to keep capitalizing on the wrongs done to us by people
I'm not exactly sure why you remain in close contact with him. I guess his good qualities overshadow his selfishness?
That's a lot to have gone through but at least it's given you a good story to share.
Hehhe.. atleast I have an experience to share here😁😁🥰 it's not everyone will should let go because of their flaws. Some people ought to be tolerated to some extent, the reason is because when you loose them you may never find anyone like them again.. more over they also have good sides like you said...
Wow, how easy it is for people that we have helped to forget our good deeds. He even denied it, you tried to still be his friend because I won't be able.
#dreemerforlife
LoL!! You can, it's just to let the hurt go and move on that's all heheh..
Thanks for stopping by
Yeah, you are welcome
I just believe that once we know the kind of person we are dealing with, it will give us more insight on how to relate well with them. Now you know your friend better and you know how to encourage him and also cope with him.
Gbam!! You got it all. There are many people we lost in this life not because we are meant to loose them but we allowed our emotions to rule. Once you understand a person, just place home or her where they belong and keep the relationship moving.. people are assets
You're right dear, I hope we continue to understand this and make better decisions.
Amen oo🥰❤️