I have become a social media addict...this is me accepting it with my full chest
some days I ask myself why the need to even open up my Instagram or Twitter page daily, sincerely it's not like I earn from it or make friends on these platforms like other people do but my answer to that question is boredom but at least I know where to draw the line in my usage of the platform. Unlike more than 50% of other youths like me if not more.
I have seen friendships spring up on social media, marriages take place, great networking too amongst peers, and great business opportunities and money made on that platform as much as I have seen suicidal attempts, bullying, trolling, envy, hatred, scam, and tears on social media.
The power of influence social media has on us as an individual is so strong that it takes a focus-minded person to not be carried away by it.
I do not want to dwell on the impact of social media on relationships formed on the platform but on the impact it has on individuals that try their best to keep their relationships offline whether mere friendship or intimate relationships.
The fact is even if you are not online there are just ways information disbursed on social media gets to you and subconsciously you begin to use the information as a yardstick for your own life.
I remember one time my uncle and aunty were goofing around about their 10th wedding anniversary gift, my aunty eas on about how my uncle cannot surprise her with a car or anything and she compared it to a young couple she heard about in her office that the husband pulled a big surprise online on their anniversary.
My uncle told us how every day it is about one couple did this and did that, they eat this and eat that and they have to I was shocked by my aunty that doesn’t even know how Instagram works but is just comparing with something she overheard happened online .
The power of social media
It is funny how people say they are not a social media person but with all the information and gist going around on social media they know it. My sister will say most information she knows about people online, she was forced to know to know just by people talking about it.
But the main question remains
Has social media caused more harm Than good in relationships.
And my answer to that after all has been said is that it depends on the individuals in the relationships.
One biggest fall of a relationship is comparison if one can avoid comparing what they see on social media to whatever relationships they share ,life will be good.
If one believe that social media standard is what they live for in their relationship then good for them.. to them it is GOOD to others it would ruin the relationship.
Everything on social media for me nah cruise
no matter how enticing a post or relationship goal seems online I see it as one big movie, and never take it to heart even to people online, if I do not know you physically it would take a lot to build a real relationship with you on any social media platform.. It is possible but like I said it will take a lot
When it comes to relationships;friendship or intimate, whether offline or online, this saying standa
all mallam to his kettle
Pure cruise
We see it everyday
Relations that you awwww about today when things turn sour and you hear all that goes down inside you will be shocked. No relationship is perfect so any one trying to sell you that about his or her own online dey boboh people
Just be you
Love your partner and work out your relationship in real life
Not everything needs to be posted
This is a well-thought-out comment.
Thanks for your contribution to the community 👍
Exactly..not everything need to be seen online
But these influencers will use the line of “it brings me money “ so I have to post everyday...i guess money over true relationship for most
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I understand your Aunty’s point of view, one of the “harm” social media brings is comparison. But at the end of the day, there are always three sides to a story, the two sides and the truth.
As for me, after some exposing stories I’ve seen, nothing on social media can influence me anymore.
And contentment is bliss
I totally agree that social media is pure cruise. Believe what you see at your own risk
That's the word
It's very true what you said.
Thank you for explaining this to all of us.
Comparison has done lots of harm to so many relationships due to social media influence. The moment we start working with what we see over there, the worse it might affect our relationship.
It's also so sad that some couples no longer have proper bonding due to social media. Some are becoming too busy to notice their spouse's feelings and being carried away by any slightest news.
What of our kids ...I pity some kids nowadays, some parents no longer have that adequate relationship with their children, they give more attention to social media to the detriment of our children's relationship
As in eh...and they called it generation Z
I like the fact that most of us are aware and I hope we do better
Nothing can separate me from social media sha...It's a free comedy show for me and I do learn new stuff but nothing concerns me with other people's relationships. If good things happen for them, I'm happy because I like good news but na there e end.
Nah there e end ooo🤣
You are right. Social media can only have a negative effect if you allow it to. Provided you have tight control over it, then it would not get that bad.
Thank you for sharing this with us.