TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: ABNORMALITY THAT NEEDS QUICK INTERVENTION

in Hive Learnersyesterday (edited)

One of the good things of life is the privilege of relationships either as family, friends, colleagues etc. Life isn't maximised when lived alone because no one is self sufficient and we all need relationships at one point or the other at certain level in level with several advantages. It is good to know that the principle of mutualism holds a big sway in any relationship i.e. mutual trust, commitment, honour, acceptance etc because if it is one sided or other there will be imbalance and hence, affects the relationship on the contrary.

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Relationships are good by intent/purpose, however, it can be otherwise out of intent/purpose which it's designed. For example, there has been instances of betrayal, abuse, cheating etc in some relationships and have left some with distrust and ill-feelings. Infact, some has even gotten to life threatening situations with some been toxic. In actual sense, toxic relationships are degenerate of fundamental issues and an abnormality from the norm. Toxic relationships should be discouraged in all sense since it defeats the purpose of a true relationship.

Why staying in a toxic relationship?
This may be as a result of many factors like fear of the unknown, shame, perspective/believe etc. For example, this is common in marital relationship, we see some people affected in this toxic marital relationship still staying because of shame it might bring if the relationship is set aside especially the popular, public figures or high profile individuals. Some because of persuasions of "he or she will change" or "because of your children" for women victims chose to stay "hoping" for a change. Some because they don't have anything doing and hence, solely relying on the toxic partner may find it difficult to leave.

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My thoughts on toxic relationships?
I strongly condemn toxic relationships because it forfeits the true eccence of relationships which should be love, care, mutual and benefits centered. There have been some toxic relationships in which the victim never lived to tell the story or did so in anguish and in irredeemable damage/loss. When noticed, it should be addressed properly to the root and if can't be curtailed, the relationship should end. Pride, woeful past, wrong exposure, insecurity, esteem issues (either high or low) etc are some of the contributing factors. Circumstancial and undefined relationship is a major risk for toxic relationship.

What can be done to reduce rate of such acts?
The more reason i believe this present generation needs to redefine and revists the true essence of relationships and what relationships is all about. Many who comes from toxic homes needs rehabilitation both spiritually, psychologically and in other ways before venturing into relationships especially the marital own. For those working in toxic environments as workplace, i believe quitting should be considered over money (even if well paid) because the money earned may not be able to solve the aftermath. Wrong exposures, wrong influences especially through unwholesome contents flying around which can be a fuel or trigger should be discouraged aswell.

In all, toxic relationships isn't something to be managed especially with someone who is unwilling to change. There is need to shout out for help as soon as possible because a slight delay maybe dangerous. I believe if everyone holds in high esteem the golden rule: "Do to others the things/way you want them to do to you", this will reduce the rate. Most importantly, every relationship should be well defined and must be mutual with love, trust and shared values/interest as fundamental, anything outside this will be quite dangerous and may lead to it been toxic. Thank you for reading even as comments/contributions are welcomed.

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 yesterday  

You are very correct here.
People are always afraid of what others will say when they leave, so they just stay and sometimes bad things happen to them.

 23 hours ago  

True 💯
You have spoken well ma ✅
Thanks so much for your comments

 23 hours ago  

You're welcome.

 yesterday  

The discussion around toxic environments is a sensitive yet ever recurring anomaly that must be addressed as it eats deeply into not just the society but our humanity

 23 hours ago  

Apt 💯
This summarises it all and well spoken 👏
Thanks for your comments sir

 22 hours ago (edited) 

You're most welcome sire

 yesterday  

We should treat those around us with kindness and empathy for whatever we give is what we receive.

 23 hours ago  

Very correct 👌
I agree with you ✅
Thanks for your comments

 yesterday  

He will change, she will change is what caged a lot of people in toxic relationships and some weren't so lucky, it lead to their downfall.

 23 hours ago  

Exactly 💯
You nailed the point sir 💯
Thanks for your comments

 17 hours ago  

Thanks