An awful lot in one piece. Great presentation. My response to some aspects here..
Evaluating ourselves properly helps us develop a decent level of awareness
And that is very essential from time to time. We need to strike a balance between the true state of our real personality and our perceived worth. Its either we constantly fail this evaluation and always have issues with people or get it right and strike the appropriate cord of great human relationships.
It's important to understand that asking people to bear our burden is an infringement
And that happens when people get their self-appraisal wrong. For example, I wrote in a recent post that taking care of one's parents or siblings is not a right for them, but an opportunity. So when they start felling you owe them a world of care, things go wrong from there.
Basically, if we are accepted by people or they elected to bear our burdens, we need to be grateful. If they however feel that we are becoming a nuisance, its either they are right, or we need to personally look inwards and correct a problem. And when you do not seem to identify any personality issues, just accept rejection and move on.
In Nigeria for example, some of the things that are right do not seem right because of the Africanic practices often cultivate, it is been passed down from one generation to another generation. And it's difficult to tell some people that this is entitlements of the highest order. I saw that particular post you wrote and I can sincerely the late because at one point in time and our lives we have had to play that role of which do not seem compulsory. However it is always treated like a compulsion because we believe in responsibilities meted out to people whether they are prepared or not.
There are people who would never be appreciative of you, even when you're bearing their burden. This is because they deem eat to be natural or normal, forgetting that a little appreciation or acknowledgements can go a long way.
But generally speaking when people begin to realise that, reciprocity is not in the human nature by default, this is when we would begin to appreciate every little thing that is being done by someone else for us because it is being done out of love and the place of difficulty
Thats so sad, especially when the people expecting those 'rights' offered little or nothing to your current state of progress. Of course, our parents by default - by virtue of giving birth to us - feel that entitlement. But honestly, some of them could do more than they did for us.
This is true because I have seen people disappointed by kids they invested all their life on. So appreciation is suitable and should be frequent from parents or other dependants whose caregivers are doing their best for them.