Breaking Family Dynamics.

in Hive Learners4 hours ago

Childhood is a very fragile stage for every human, and its influence on the future can't be quantified. It is a stage that requires balancing care and discipline, which can be quite complicated because many times, parents find it challenging to create the balance. Of course, every child wants just that care, which isn't enough to prepare them for adolescence and the life after.

Being disciplined should definitely be part of every child's upbringing, but it's not something kids love. They see it as cruelty when you deny or deprive them of things they think they should have or do, which explains how well they process and understand things.


Many kids hold grudges with their parents today just because Dad or Mom is very strict, and many of us can't deny doing the same when we were younger, but there was nothing we could do about it, especially in this part of the world where parents won't take shit from their kids. African parents are just on a whole different level when it comes to inculcating discipline, and things could have been different if kids could actually sue their parents even for the slightest of issues.

The impact of this would be terrible; I foresee lots of negative effects because discipline will become a history, and the future of many kids will be exposed to countless atrocities.

Although it would look like a good decision for kids, it's sweet when they can get revenge immediately for not allowing them to visit their friends or do whatever they want, but the fact remains that they are kids, and that would be the consequences of giving them the right to make such a heavy decision.

Kids will always be kids, and I won't be surprised seeing lots of parents having troubles disciplining their kids. I can confidently say the world will never be the same place anymore, and we aren't ready for the aftermath of giving kids the right to sue their parents.

Just last week, a widow in my street sought my advice over an issue. Her eldest son just got into the university, and he is demanding so much for pocket money/upkeep.

They had a disagreement last Wednesday over the issue, and the boy immediately called some of his maternal uncle's to report his mom, and I felt bad because he is not a kid, plus he should at least be considerate that the woman is doing her best.

I don't know what the uncle decided, but if it was a situation where the boy could sue his mother, he wouldn't hesitate to do that. I know the court will make the right judgment, but the relationship between the boy and his mom will never be the same.

I know things are completely different in the western world, where kids can report their parents, and I believe that's just their culture, but that won't work here in Africa. There are kids who have the courage to do such things, but many Nigerian kids wouldn't dare because they know the aftermath of their actions wouldn't be nice.

Personally, this is something I wouldn't have tried as a kid because of the relationship between me and my mom. It would hurt her to go through such stress, and I bet she wouldn't be happy with me even if things go in her favor at the court.

In conclusion, giving kids the right to sue their parents makes no sense. We are automatically empowering the kids negatively, and it wouldn't end well at a rate at which discipline would become a scarce commodity. Family disputes between parents and kids, whether huge or just minor, should be settled at home.

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 3 hours ago  

Many parents are not strict if we think about it; it's just that some children don't want to hear words, and if they are given the privilege to report their parents at court, we are going to get so many unnecessary cases that the judge might ever get angry about.

Children need to understand that parents do things for them, and if children are given the legal right to sue their parents in court, it will shake the balance of our norms and traditions. This is something that has never been heard of in Nigeria.

 3 hours ago  

In my opinion, a father has the right to give various advice to his children, so that when they grow up their children can appreciate people who are older than them, nowadays there are indeed many cases that befall parents due to the actions of uncivilized children, in essence I strongly disagree with a child suing his parents.

 2 hours ago  

Discipline will become a history, and the future of many kids will be exposed to countless atrocities.

I totally agree with you, the reason a lot of Western kids lack discipline and are facing the consequences today

Family issues especially between parent and children should be sorted themselves.

 2 hours ago  

Most of the time I will say 99% time the parents action are fornthe betterment of the kids only except alone exceptions. The parents has seen the world and they have experience and form their experiences only they gives the advice.