Having been once a student, a teacher, and now a parent, my experiences during these times of my life would help me navigate the current topic of Who is to blame when a child performs poorly academically. I will be writing this post based on my perception during those moments and my current as a parent.
As a student, I was one, if not the brightest student throughout my primary and secondary school education, I had good teachers who were very disciplined, you know those old school teachers that didn't spare the rod at any given opportunity you fall into their trap, from coming to school early and not late, making sure you complete all assignments, pass your tests and exams, we were even flogged for late school fee payment, even though they knew our parents are the ones responsible for that part, my point is their strict method instilled discipline in us, and we didn't even have to wait for an additional one from our parents, mine for instance, never had the time to check my books, I understand that things were not so rosy financially for them, so they had to put in extra work hours to be able to meet up our needs and by the time they were back from work, it was all dark, they exhausted and we asleep sometimes. I'm not saying that sort of parenting relating to our academics was good, but even at that, there was still seriousness on my end as a student to do well in my academics, and my teacher's extra efforts made sure of that as well.
By the time I graduated, and became a teacher for a little while before venturing into another career path, it was noticed that the academic system had experienced drastic changes, and students becoming less serious like they used to be, the new generation of kids are now pampered and even make decisions on their own, teachers are now scared of going extra length, not the ruthless kind though, to make sure the students are kept on their toes, any slight discipline might even warrant a sue or complain from parents, giving students the confidence they need to misbehave and not pay proper attention to their academics, because they know they won't be serving any punishment that would make them think twice about not doing certain tasks again. To make it worse, distractions these days from the internet and peer pressure have made students lose interest in their academics, they would rather want to be TikTok celebrities and believe it's the shortest route to wealth than face their studies, of course, they have role models influencing this act.
As a parent now, I understand better why my parents were always away, but would I want that for my child considering the way the present generation kids are, capital NO!, the situation of the economy is even worse than in those times and parents hardly ever have time for their children's academic affairs, checking their assignment, going for P.T.A and open day, all in the name of making ends meet, for me, it is a conscious and intentional act that I meet my children's needs, not only financially, but academically as well, the reason why I made certain choices, from my profession to how I spend my time, so I create that important moment for my children.
So it is fair to say that all hands must be on deck for a child to perform excellently in their academics, From the teachers, the parents, and the students themselves, they must be willing to put on their best and not allow distractions to rob them of their excellence.
*All images used in this post are mine.
Thank you for reading.❤❤
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God bless those olden days tutors. Perhaps we considered their methods harsh but it worked for us. Unfortunately, most recent tutors are not there as a result of passion but of necessity.
Pampering children has become the order of the day. And you're right, exposures in form of distractions have deviated the focus of kids from their academics.
Exactly, thanks for your input
You're welcome