When I hear people say love is all we need to have a happy and sustaining marriage, I laugh because I know such a person is still living in the fantasy world and most probably hasn't even been in the institution called marriage. Marriage is a beautiful institution, no doubt about this. Still, it takes more than love, and a lot of the commitment and intentionality of both individuals to make it work. When I say beautiful, that doesn't mean there won't be any challenges but the maturity and awareness of both couples involved goes a long way to help them either tolerate or fight their challenge. Not to mess up the minds of the singles here, believe me, marriage is beautiful but Love alone is not all you need to hold a sustaining and happy marriage.
One of the contracts often signed by intending couples is a prenuptial agreement, for better understanding, this is when they come into an agreement concerning what happens to their assets, should incase the marriage falls apart. Some of us, especially Africans, often look at this agreement with disdain and doubt, believing anyone looking to sign such agreement has ill intentions or already believes the marriage will be short-lived, while some practically accept because they have nothing to lose because they aren't even going into the marriage with anything, some others feel hurt when presented with the idea by their partner and even outright reject it.
I think in this age and time, it takes two mature adults going into marriage to understand that no matter how in love you are, marriage itself is an agreement, why then do you go to the registry to seal your marriage, yes the possibility of falling apart is also there, no one goes into marriage praying for it to fall apart, but we can't ignore that reality about its possibility, we've seen cases where divorce drains a man or woman, mostly men financially down.
A man or woman who has managed to develop him or herself physically and financially which we can't deny are part of the qualities that got them attracted to you, would likely want to save his or herself in case of a fallout, as an intending partner, you shouldn't have a problem with that, the only part you should be concerned with is what you both build together as a couple, and also the welfare of the children borne during that union.
A prenuptial agreement is not about being selfish, it's about being conscious of what you are getting into, and that shouldn't be the reason you feel you can fall in and out of marriage as you please, so in this agreement, I believe there should be a clause that favours both parties equally and also according to their input. Prenups shouldn't be viewed as a lack of faith in love and commitment to the marriage, look at it this way, we insure our properties, our house, cars, and even our very lives should incase of a bad circumstance, note that no one prays to become a victim of bad circumstances, but the reality of life is that it isn't predictable.
In that same vein, a prenuptial agreement should be viewed as insurance and not a gateway to dubious intentions the process of negotiating a prenup can lead to important discussions about financial values, expectations, and long-term goals that might have otherwise gone unaddressed.
As I stated in my introduction, in marriage, love isn't enough, and prenups make it possible for us to have romantic ideals with practical wisdom, that helps our marriages to be
both emotionally and pragmatically sound.
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I agree with you completely @glorydee .
Nobody builds anything with an intention to fall it. Nevertheless, life is unpredictable and anything may happen. Marriage is no exception.
I think the most important thing about prenups is that it shouldn't be a burden on any side. Instead, there should be an element of consideration, kindness and justice in it.
Your last sentence sums it so well, maintaining equality of satisfaction on both sides should be considered.
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Lovely point of view but if the two matured adults decides to make it work, they can taking away pride and others.
Marriage is an argument but according to a friend, burning all bridges mean you are not going back. A prenup means otherwise
I wish it is always that easy but it isn't as life can hit from any direction, let the prenup guide us in marriage abeg.
if there is eventually a case for divorce, then the assets go to the children or goes to the orphanage, that way, they will think twice.
Heyy glorydee, but I think if the partners are loyal to each other it's enough to stay happy with and have a peaceful life. No need of any agreement and all.
If only that alone works, but times have change, and people change
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