Imagine visiting your soon-to-be mother-in-law, and the very first question I got asked by her was "Are your parents still together?" This question was a bit off to me when asked that moment, apart from the nervousness of meeting my then boyfriend and now husband's mum, I knew I was in for questioning because every mother had to look out for her child, but this question wasn't in the list of what I thought she would ask me.
Yes, they are, I replied, and are married for over 20 years then
I could see her breathe a sigh of relief and all the unseen but felt tension varnished suddenly as she took me in a warm embrace, I didn't quite understand her reasons then, but I much do now, her constant saying of I don't want a broken home for my son now it makes sense. Being a single mum herself, who single-handedly raised her two sons into responsible men now, I imagined how tough it must have been for her, though she indeed raised them well and tried her best to fill their father's absence, still, it Isn't an easy experience, because bearing the burden alone all these years had taken a huge toll on her, no matter how strong she has groomed herself to be emotionally, financially and otherwise.
Parenting responsibility was meant to be shared by both parent, but when circumstances beyond us happen, then imagine all of that burden placed on one person, it traumatized her to the extent of not wanting a daughter in law whose parent were separated as well for her son because her mentality is every possibility of a child raised by estranged parent easily leaving the marriage when challenges come which is inevitable in every marriage, challenges would come but it takes a conscious mindset of the couples to know that should be in unity to face any challenge as they have to be there for their kids.
In my opinion, I don't think having both parents guarantees raising a well-to-do child, rather it takes good parents whether single or both to dedicate their attention, time, and other resources to raise good children.
Yes, single parenting takes a toll on the single parent bearing the children's burden, yet, it doesn't make their children any lesser or better, not that there won't be lapses in some areas, like missing a father's role in upbringing, you know how fathers show care in their own special way like setting good examples on how to be a good father and husband to their sons, in cases where the mother alone is the parent no matter how hard she tries, there would still be a vacuum left to fill, but in overall the type of parenting doesn't determine how good or bad a child turns out, as either can happen both ways.
We've seen single parents raise icons and both parents raising criminals, above all, the best still remain having both parents, but life can take an unexpected turn with her through a divorce or even the passing away of a partner, the active parent, shouldn't falter, and stay strong, that doesn't stop the child or children from becoming great in the future.
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It takes a lot to raise wonderful kids and if those with that task are not doing it well, either singly or together, they'll fail. Like you rightly said, there are criminals out there who were raised in affluence by both parents. Likewise, the society is filled with good heads who were raised singly by their mom or dad.
Yeah, parenting isn't an easy responsibility,