Sometimes, it is very easy for us to forget about ourselves all in our bid for achieving something in life. It could either be that we want to be good persons and then we forget to be good to ourselves or because we are just so blinded by greed and envying that it became very hard for us to even look after ourselves and more. I have been a victim of being carefree when it comes to taking care of myself and it happened for quite a long time that even when I realized and try to set myself free from it, I know how much I struggled to do so.
It was in the year 2020, I found myself in a relationship that was really detrimental to my mental health and even my physical health at some point. I was still young and naive, I was not thinking as I should and that cost me good part of my sanity. I was in a relationship with someone that seemed like he was obsessed with me, I realized this a little late but somehow I did. Well, it was hard for me to realize earlier because I also liked him and so, I felt it was normal until one faithful say.
If there is anything I hate with every fiber in me, it will be when people try to blackmail me into doing something that I won’t want to do on a normal day or something that will make me regret later. Well, this friend of mine was that person. Whenever he did something wrong, he always makes use of my weakness. He knows I have a soft spot for seeing people suffer in any way and he would always use that against me. Well, it was all bearable until he kept making me experience pain in ways that made me hated myself. It was unlike me, I hardly even think towards the direction of hurting myself but thanks to this friend of mine, I did.
He totally messed with my sanity and I remember there was a time when I went completely out. I turned off my phone and would just stay indoors feeling sad and spiteful towards myself. I kept questioning why I needed people in my life besides my family, I kept regretting ever letting him come into my life and many other questions that kept running through my mind. It was due to this deterioration in my mental health that I started becoming cold towards people at some point. No matter how pitiful you might look, once I remember how hard it was for me to break free from a relationship that was toxic to my mental health, I easily care less about your feelings because I felt I needed to care for myself first.
I was unfortunately to met someone who made me suffer mentally but God helped me and I was able to break free. Now, as much as I can, I always try to put myself first because the truth is, no matter what happens, people will come and go and if you are not careful, they will only come to toil with your sanity and leave. If you are not lucky enough, you might turn into something that you can even barely recognize. Taking care of our mental health is very important because depending on how well you take care of it, that is also how well you can relate better with people and even do anything productive and good.
But then, in as much as I try to put myself first, I still try to know when it is necessary to just put someone first even though I have been traumatized by the experience I had. It has been a struggle but somehow, God has always made it seem like something easy for me to overcome that is even hard for anyone to really know if I have gone through such a battle. One major way I try to make sure such experience does not show up again is by always speaking up whenever I’m not comfortable with something rather than trying to get use to it. And so far, it has made my life more easier and better.
I’m happy and lucky I didn’t completely fold up after that experience because today, I have some really good friends that I would have lost if I had hold on to that unfortunate experience. And this is the part when we are advised and reminded once again to always learn from our pasts but never let it define us.
Thank you for reading through. ❤️
It's always in our best interest to protect our mental health.
No one will do it for us.
I like that you have the balance of considering others but not at the detriment of your self.
You’re absolutely right, if we don’t take care of ourselves, no one will do it for us. ✅
Thank you for your input. 🥰
You're most welcome 🤗🤗🤗
Have a blessed day, dear. 🥰
And you too.
Thank you. 🤗
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I really love the last part where you said you speak up when you're not comfortable with something rather than trying to get used to it..
Our mental health out priority
Thank you Sylva, it’s a pleasure having you stop by and reading through. 🥰
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Good you know better how to deal with situations like that. I think I can relate to an extent.
So sorry you had to go through that my love, you deserve way better 🥰 keep speaking up for yourself!
Thank you mama, I will always speak up. I have learnt my lesson.
That's my girl 🥰
Thank God for that you've learned from such experience and the good friends you have.
Yeah, thank God. 🥰
In a situation like the one you feel, of course you need friends who can give you encouragement and a way out, but you seem to have that so you no longer need to regret what has happened in the last few years of your life.
Yes friend, I’m no longer worried or hunted by how those times made me feel thanks to the amazing friends I have. 🥰
Hmmm, glad u didn't bottled up after your first unpleasant experience with the guy which affected your mental health. Speaking up is always a life saver when you are in an uncomfortable situation. It's good you learn from ur experience and open ur arms for the good friends you have today!
Yes mama, it was just God that helped me. Anytime I look back, I just start smiling and give thanks to God because a lot of great and amazing changes so far. 🥰
Thank you for your input, mama. ❤️
Hey, love. I'm sorry you had to experience this. One thing about people is that when they know your weak point, they start ti use it against you. They milk you, make you suffer and question your insanity.
Being in a relationship with an obsessed and terrible person is one of the worst things that can ever happen. It can completely mess with your mental health and destroy it.
I'm glad you broke free. In anything, we should always prioritize our happiness.
Thanks for sharing, Evol.❤️
Yeah, at some point I could barely see anything good in anything. It was daunting.
I’m really happy I could break free, I almost thought I couldn’t.
Thanks for reading through, my Dalulu. ❤️
I can relate.
You're welcome, love.❤️
I’m glad you can. ❤️
You are correct dear. When people hurt us it somehow affect our relationship with others. But with God we can heal fast and still trust others around
Thanks for sharing
That’s right. It was God that made it all seem easy.
Thanks for reading through, mama. 🥰
Thank you. 🥰