I'll rather call of pretence, have I ever pretend to be what I never was just to achieve my aim or is it even a sin.
I have found myself in a lot of situations where I have to pretend to be what I wasn't, I mean a lot.
Just like the story of Esaw and Jacob where Jacob had to pretend like his brother to receive their fathers blessings with the help of their mother.
There's a particular quote by George Bernard Shaw which says “Don’t Wait for Opportunity, Create it”. I believe in doing all possible best in achieving my aims as long as it's a good one.
I could remember one of those days when I was still younger when I use to visit my uncle from paternal side, then he just got married and he had delays in child bearing. He likes me alot and he always wanted me to come during holidays, if possible if he had always wanted me to stay with him which my mum is against.
But what he hated was rough and careless play, he doesn't like children playing around areas as he would always scold us, he always wanted us to stay inside the house either reading or playing games.
I knew this about him as I also hated this because I love to play around the neighborhood, but there's something that always get me interested in going to his place which is the special treatment aspect, he treats me like a king and always gives me money to take care of myself after the holidays, I had no choice to sucumm to his will even though I prove stubborn most of the times.
But this time around I was in my terminal class so I needed money so badly for myself, you know nar as big boy stuff, I wanted to buy things I would wear on graduation day so I had no choice.
Unluckily for me me when I got there as at that time his wife was heavily pregnant and he needed someone to give her helping hands, it was then I knew I was in big palava. Not that they maltreated me, NO! but it was very stressful. On a normal day, am a person that hates house chores and staying indoor had always been my dislike but I had to do that just to satisfy my uncle.
To cut the long story short, I went there I literally had to do every chores, the wife was heavily pregnant that she couldn't lift a cup and my uncle travels for work he is a civil engineer), so I was left with the wife, she always made sure I was by her side which means I can't go out to anywhere, it was the most boring moments I have ever experienced, I wasn't used to that. This went on for over a month because it was a summer holiday and during this time was when the wife gave birth
This went on for over a month because it was a summer holiday, and it was during this period his wife gave birth which made the boredom and stress reduced, my uncle eventually came back and really did appreciated me for dedicating my time to satisfy him and ofcourse he fufilled his promise like he used to do and that made me happy.
Don't sit around waiting for opportunities to come to you; go out there and create them yourself. Take charge of your path and make things happen. Sometimes, all we need to do is to try new things. Try everything.
It happens to many ones . What i have observed that uncles without kids show much affection for their nephews. Both aunt and uncle cossete them but when they get their own kids. They started neglecting them and this creates a grudging feeling among kids as well