I can relate to your friend's situation because I am also facing the same situation. I can pass my time and save money if I only think about myself but I can't think like that because I believe that whatever I am it's because of my family and what is the meaning of money if I can't share it with my family. Without family, there is no happiness.
we really cant ignore them when they are in trouble, but also we need to become stronger in order to be able to elevate them too or else everyone will just remain stagnant if you keep using the little resources you have on your family