2022 has been a year of learning for me even if most of the things I've learned have been a result of endless mistakes I've had to make. This doesn't mean I haven't been grieving, spending time regretting, or hoping I can turn back the hands of time.
However, I like to see it as a year of learning rather than a year of mistakes, regrets, and failure. This is because I like to console myself with the idea that my failure stories are a learning process because saying or thinking so gives me hope as I head into the new year.
However, we're all different, a lot of people tap into their failures, remunerate and dwell on them, without knowing that counting one's successes isn't only about being appreciative.
It's also about banking on these successes as momentum or some sort of confidence
So while it seems I've failed externally, I see it as learning differently, because I choose to tap into all the happenings in my life from when I became conscious as a learning process that should provide enough experience in my advent or quest to become better.
I like to learn, and losing both parents made me create an appraisal for learning. I started cooking when I was 10 and this was basically because the turmoil in my family made me understand the importance of independence. So in my life, the doggedness to learn isn't just because I'm curious, it's because learning for me is inevitable, I need the lessons to better my life.
The Luxury Of Not Affording Any Luxuries
There are luxuries I couldn't and still cannot afford and one of them is the luxury of procrastination. I have been w conscious and subconscious learner, I program and train myself, to learn even in the worst conditions, instead of just experiencing life alone. I think living life without learning is vain.
Most people do not grow within themselves and if one cannot grow from within, it's impossible to grow externally, also it's impossible to be intentional about learning externally if we cannot even find the essence of learning internally.
I'm mostly self-taught. This means that some of the knowledge I have about the reality of life is perceived. I lost my mom in August, the impact nearly sent me under. The financial constraints were the biggest thing I've had to face all my life.
Everyone Succumbs To The Danger Of Uncertainty
Then just a month after her death, my brother had a fatal accident These things made me realize I should have taken actions or made decisions that could have prevented the catastrophic events from happening, I knew some of what happened, was within my means to overturn, but then again.
I remembered, we can only change the fabrics of reality to the degree of things within our power. I also learned about the importance of adherence to premonitions, but then I remembered I wasn't entirely dismissive, I had my health issues to handle and because of it, I might miss the moments I should have taken big decisions in my life.
What If It's Broken.But Unfixable?
For example
.....I've been indecisive about the things I need to fix in my life, this is because I'm scared of getting it all wrong. 2022, began on a good note, I remembered that I could have tailored my plans to achieve some of the things I wanted, the means were there, but I felt I was not mentally ready, I delayed the decision, and now I'm back regretting not having to trust my instincts.
I'm a very slow-to-action type of person and this is because I rather bear the opportunity cost of procrastination rather than wallow in the consequences of regret. So being slow to action might have taken away my opportunity to change my life in January, but one of the things I've realized is that we never take time to applaud ourselves for making the right calls especially if the reward of doing so isn't as obvious as we'd want.
Being Underappreciative Is In The Gene
This is to say that, I feel I've made so many good calls this year, however, because I didn't see the consequences that might ensue if the calls were wrong, it makes us subconsciously underappreciative. Most of the time, we don't celebrate wins that aren't obvious because we didn't get to live with the consequences if these prospective calls were wrong.
This leads me to be appreciative, I'm hardly unappreciative and this is mostly because I try to weigh whatever predicaments I have with the idea that the situation could have been worse. This doesn't mean I try to underestimate the current problems I might have, most of the time, the things I try to achieve balance, this is because it is a state of mind where I stay adrift, aware of my failure and victories simultaneously in other to find peace and hope for a better tomorrow.
I wouldn't lie, a lot of things worry me and one of them is the fear of capitulation
maintaining an upward stride but suddenly an expected turn of events happens and we're back to ground zero
It is one of the most gruesome places in life. I worry about my health, I worry about my life, I worry about my opportunities and if I'll ever pull off some of the things I've planned for my life, I also worry I might not hit that dream family or future that I want due to circumstances within my control.
All of these might be too much, but sometimes it becomes difficult to delineate me from these worries. However, I just take pleasure in the idea that the future would be better, and friendlier than my agitations whatsoever. No matter what, when there's life, I believe a lot of things are accomplishable. I'm hoping and heading into 2023 with a very positive mindset, cheers. See you on the other side.
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I literally saw myself in all letters, phrase and sentences in this work, first I have lost both parent secondly I'm kind of pessimistic person, third I'm an addicted learner, fourth I began cooking at a very tender age, like i can make all types of meal ..pro version 😁...
But you see the truth is .. everything in life is just a phase...it will pass, this is the reason why I ended worries long time ago, and I began cherishing every moment so greatly ...cause it will soon fade away...
I'm particularly so grateful for this year for a lot of things...I don't know how to express my feelings but it's been a YEAR indeed...
Good morning and Stay up Strong
Wow, that's oddly specific. I'm wondering how all these can happen at the same time, but I remembered that we are all humans and sometimes, we share similarities in our issues and Just minor unnoticeable differences.
Of course, I won't lie I'm totally appreciative of everything, especially because I feel my life is a miracle by divine intervention.
Irrespective, we end another year hopefully and working harder towards next year.
True
Truth is there is an imbalance about life issues. The painful part, the human subconscious controls the event and reality that happens to us in life. It becomes more difficult because we cannot consciously control the subconscious. And this is what makes it seem incidents happens to us unawares.
But the life is still there.. so there is another chance to make it better.
Well, that's an entirely different angle to access the occurrences. Well I feel that no matter how well placed we are in life, we cannot control bad things from happening, either consciously or subconsciously. I just feel we can only control what we can control and hope for the best. Thanks a million..
Always welcomed man 🤝
Mistakes are inevitable. No mater how careful you are, you certainly will make a mistake. That's what I call a necessary evil.
However, it is our ability to rise up and learn from those mistakes that matters. We will get hurt, broken, shattered and so on. Having to be optimistic no matter the situation makes you a survivor.
Happy new year in advance.
Yeah, mistakes are inevitable, however we live in the fear of their consequences. I think I rather see mine as a learning process, a curve that's inevitable in life to an extent. Thanks a lot.
Happy new year in advance.
Learning is never ending if one wants to be better each day. Mistakes we’ve made even when terrible teach us a lot. There is no progress without mistakes.
See you on the other side🙂.
I am sorry about your mum💐
Learning is a process and I guess we cannot undergo that process without making mistakes. Thanks for that summation of the post, it was precise.
Thanks a million, I appreciate.
Your welcome 🤗
Mistakes and accidents will always happen. Nobody can avoid them and some of them are unavoidable because nothing is set in stone. Just move on and learn from them. I hope you get better soon and it really hurts when so many bad things happen. So I am glad that you are looking forward to 2023 with a positive mindset.
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Yeah, mistakes are unavoidable, but some of them comes with great consequences. I have chosen to embrace the positive aspects and keep going for next year. Of course, I'm approaching 2023 with a positive mindset.
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Can anyone on this planet earth escape making mistakes? I guess no but what matters is our ability to keep learning from our mistakes to be make things better.
It's been a year of learning for you coupled with lots of happenings around you. It's also not bad to be worried over so many things as a human being but in everything, remain positive 👌
Wishing you the best of 2023
Stay awesome 😎🥰
Thank you Ma. What I can say is that, 2022 has really done me dirty. I actually learned a lot. Things have actually happened and since they weren't the end of me, I believe there are bigger things that'll still happen to me, so I believe. Thank you so much for reaching out.
Bigger things are ahead of you my dear despite how dirty this year treated you.
I love your belief and positivity 💖✅✅
Thank you, how are the kids?
They are good 😊
I took them for gaming yesterday at the children fun world 🌎
It was a fun filled day 🎉🥳🥰
I'm also positive about 2023 despite knowing there will be more challenges to encounter. I keep repeating to myself in my mind that it's possible. Anything is possible and there lies the hope. I think reality is 'negotiable' to a certain degree.
Yeah, I think challenges will occur in 2023. So many people actually enjoyed 2022. In reality, I'll say 2021 was a better year for me. But I'm certain 2023 will be better for me.
So being slow to action might have taken away my opportunity to change my life in January omg, I never more identified than with this sentence, I also had this thought because I had some plans for 2022 but because of my procrastination and lack of commitment I didn't achieve and I was quite discouraged by it, however, I am working on it for this coming year, we still have time and a long way to go or at least that's what I always tell myself.
I loved your post, I am so sorry about your parents and your brother, you deserve very good things and they will come! <3
Happy Holidays!!
Keep working on it, I know it's difficult to pass off on an opportunity that we could have utilized better. Nevertheless, we're not immune to mistakes, so I take it that you'll become even better with time.
Thanks a million, thanks for the kind words and happy new year too.
well done, we all make mistakes, and the younger we are ,the more mistakes we made due to lack of experience. Perseverance and positive mind are the key
Cheers to another year of many mistakes, hopefully 2023 will be better..
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It's understandable to feel regret about things that didn't go as planned, but it's important to focus on the lessons learned and try to move forward. It's also important to remember that we all make mistakes and it's a natural part of the learning and growing process
It's also important to be kind to yourself and recognize your successes and accomplishments, even if they may not be as visible as you would like.
Wishing you a happy and successful new year in advance !
I do have this same feelings and I have 90% of my investments on hive and i ask myself if something happens but believe keep hustling. A lot of mistakes this year but I did not dwell in them lesson learnt and I move on
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Hey Joe, I only knew about your mum. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must have been for you. Sending you loads of virtual hugs. You're doing well.
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