At every slightest opportunity I get, I always talk about my mom and how she has impacted my life. I grew up under the shed of my parents. I grew up with 3 older siblings, but my mom gave me special attention. Better put, I paid close attention to her every move, watching her steps and following in her footsteps. I am my mom’s work of art. I am my mom’s masterpiece. She taught me almost all the good things I know. She taught me that life is not a bed of roses, and to survive you need to get familiar with some virtues or codes as you'd like to put it. She also taught me how to discern the virtues from the vices. If you're familiar with my blog, you know how much I love and admire my mom and how I always talk about her. Well, today is another day to brag about my love and admiration for the woman who brought me to this world.
Today’s Hive learners’ prompt asks us what codes we live by. A code that defines how we live our lives and relate with other people. To start with, it is important to note that living life without these cords will be meaningless and silly. In simple words, codes are rules or principles that guide the way we live our lives. No matter how things get, we will never deviate from these codes. We are all uniquely wired. Hence, we all have different codes. What works for you might not work for another person. So, what is your code? What defines your life and how you relate with other people.
One of the core codes I live by is to avoid causing harm to others through my actions. I try as much as I can to be mindful not to let my actions cause pain or suffering on those around me. Up until January, I’d always call myself a good person. Whenever anyone asks the question “are you a good person,” I’d stand tall, beat my chest and boldly answer that I am. All my life, I have always strived to do good and not let my actions harm others, but over the months, I realized I have, in one way or the other, hurt people with my words and actions. So, what do I do? I strive harder and put in more effort to make sure I follow my mom’s teachings- never let your words and actions hurt others.
I find it surprising that people go extra lengths to make sure they cause harm to others. Yesterday, I visited a friend’s hostel and he told me about one of their housemates who went extra miles to inflict pain (not physical) on her former roommate. Apparently, the two haven't been on good terms since they moved into the hostel. I have witnessed a few times when they fought. They’d fight on Monday and before Tuesday, they'd become best of friends. One of them decided to move out of the hostel, but Instead of packing her things, she totally wiped everything. After packing her things, she removed the wallpaper and stained the paint (apparently, she painted the room and did the wallpaper with her money.) I find this really disgusting. I mean, what would you gain by making your former roommate sad?
There are so many people like her out there who go the extra miles to make people sad and wipe off the smiles on their faces. In a world filled with thorns and sharp nails, make people happy.
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Our parents play a vital role in our lives, if they fail to play that role well then things might go wrong and we find ourselves on the wrong track. Glad mom had such an impact on you.
I totally agree with you, man. Thanks God for our parents.
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This was just beautiful to read as it aligns with my code too. I will never reciprocate evil or bad no matter what. I come from a home of love and that’s all I can give in all situations. It really can be hard but at that moment it’s about my own peace of mind because as you said what exactly will she gain by ruining the walls? If she has conscience, I don’t think what she did will sit well with her.
Hey there, Abenad. I'm pretty sure you are still “doing something” or “still eating.” 😂
It is nice to know that this also aligns with you code. That’s the best way to live life, really.
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I literally call your mum My fave’s superwoman, hehe. I’m really happy she got to impact your life in so many positive ways.
Sometimes it can be really hard not to hurt people but what matters is the mind of not wanting to do it intentionally. Sadly, some people just derive their joy from causing others to be sad.
Well done trying to live by this code my love, it’s a great one 🥰
Sometimes, you will want to pay evil with evil. “Do me I do you.” We should also fight the urge to pay evil with evil.
Yes, Hope. It is sad that some people derive joy from hurting others.
When was the last time you called your Fave’s superwoman?😕
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I as well don't see any reason why anyone would choose to inflict harm on others and that will still bring them joy. Don't they have guilty conscience??. Even when I am in the wrong at times I still feel guilty and find a way to apologise. But then at times most of these people behave like this due to some things they have emulated from their parents or seen somewhere else which is actually very bad.
Some people are evil. Wickedness runs through their veins.
Thankfully, my mom brought me up well.
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