Greetings!
Life itself is a journey where a part of it on earth is ended by death, after which the person continues to live in places that are not on earth. This is what I've learned through various means, and I hope it's true, which means I would get to meet some of my deceased relatives in times to come. I've lost a lot of loved ones to death, and the shocking thing is that I will continue to lose them until it gets to my turn, where I'll be a loss to others on earth too.
Among those I lost is my mom's only sister, whom I only knew when I was little.
Because I was little then, I could have dismissed the idea of writing about her, but no—the manner in which she died is a mystery. To tell you what, somehow, my maternal grandma, who died last year, still believed she was alive untill her death day, which gets me thinking sometimes that she may still be alive, even though we partially concluded that she was dead.
I know you're already confused. This is what happened:
Like I said, I was little then, a teen boy, but I was sensible of what was happening. She(my aunt) and Grandma lived in a rural area in Edo, and there was a trend those days where people were being sponsored overseas for a greener pasture. My late aunt was among those that traveled to a particular country by sea. Two days after she left, my uncle received a call from the seaport to report that my aunt's boat had capsized and none of the travelers survived.
I was little then, so I didn't know the country they were traveling to or the person that was sponsoring them overseas. All I heard were lamentations, cries, and various calls that sounded international while they were trying to find out if the lady was actually dead, killed, or had disappeared because people believed those acts were common when traveling overseas.
I was very sensible when my grandma was going to different churches and native homes to seek help from prophets and seers to know if she was still alive. All the places she went to told her that she was still alive, and they demanded many things to make sacrifices for her to find her way back home.
Her death was the first time I lost someone I was very close to. I was her bestie because she liked my fair complexion, and anytime she visited our home, she always took me around. You know how hurtful it is to lose someone like that. It was very hard to believe, and thank God that my grandma's movements gave us that hope that she was still alive...so even in the midst of believing she's gone, we still had a jot of doubt in us*
Months and years passed. My grandma and my mom got tired of buying this and that for sacrifices, going to religious homes for prayers, which was costing money too, and there was no result of my aunt returning.
Oh yeah, that's how we gradually gave up over time and kept praying that if she was still alive, she would come back home to us one day.
To this day, she hasn't returned, and I'm smiling writing about this because she didn't give us a sharp pain. Instead, the news of her death came gradually and faded off gradually too. Ever since then, my mom has remained the only daughter of her late parents.
What I learned:
To be very sincere, what happened then has somehow added a little detest to the idea of traveling abroad for greener pastures under a not straightforward sponsor.
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Now where do you even start from? It is well sir, my prayers are with you and your family.
Always a #dreemerforlife
Mehn, the experience was a very heavy one but we scaled through.
Such is life.
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Oh my, that's sad🥺 It is never easy to lose anyone, especially in such a way like this.
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Yeah, so painful.
Anytime the mind starts thinking that she could still be alive, the heart goes back into mourning.
What if she's still alive? Probably hasn't been able to contact you people for one reason or the other.
Either way, I believed taking a flight would have been more safer. I can't even imagine how painful this must have been to the family.
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Some years ago, we used to ponder on this a lot but when we think it deep, we just let the thought fly away.
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It's well.
You're welcome.
Wow, that's really really shocking. You all lived in denial in a while, although it isn't certain she's dead, but it's certain she has been around, she might have made a life there for herself and probably in the future her kids will come finding or she might actually dead either ways it's best to not dwell much on that topic and leave it to GOD, just being ready whichever outcome comes, that's the best mindset, I'm pretty sure your doing that already friend 😁😁😁.
Yeah, we stayed for so long with that thought and feeling but at a time, we just had to let go and ease off the mind.
If she's dead, good.
If she's still alive, good too.
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But wait. What if she is actually alive? On another thought, if truly she is, she could have find means of reaching you somehow. Oh wow. This is a shocking story to me because I only watch it in movies and never heard of it this way.
But this experience only keeps one thinking and having the hope that they are still alive somewhere, making the mind not to settle or even moving on to finally conclude she is dead. I know one part of your mom's and Grandma's mind would be that she is still alive.
I can't figure out the exact year it happened but I'm sure it's in early 2000. Many years have passed and it's obvious she's not alive because just as you said, she must have found means to reach out to us.
She could appear one day too ooo! Lol😂
There was a particular movie we watched then that my mom and grandma warned us not to watch again because it was bringing back memories. The movie was all about the bad things that happen to people who traveled abroad.
While writing this, I went to Search for the movie but couldn't get it because I couldn't even remember the casts😅.
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Hahaha. It's a long year indeed, I think it's better to just move on. #dreemerforlife
This is strange and sad but I get the message. Death is a painful experience especially the death of a loved one.
Yeah, very strange.
We've gotten over it long time ago. She's dead.
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Thats why the old saying "live, laugh, love" will always be a timeless guide for us because life is too short
Yeah brother.
Life is short. Too short not to live it in happiness and love.
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May we live a brief but fulfilling life 🥂
A very loud Ameeeeeeeeeeen!
What if she’s alive fr?
And she hasn’t been able to contact you guys?
Because you didn’t even see her corpse up till date.
If you grandma thought she was alive then I believe she is too maybe she just doesn’t want to come home.
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All these thoughts, they lived in our heart for many years until we finally gave up when we weren't seeing signs.
It is well
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