Like I always say, parenting is difficult. It is hard work, especially because it does not have a manual that suits every parent and every child. How do I mean? While some parents adopt the traditional way of correcting children, which involves physical measures such as flogging, and it works for them, others prefer the talk-to-the-child method, and it works just as well. The same applies to children—some only take correction and change when they are beaten. This is commonly seen in local environments where things appear rough and tough. Meanwhile, some children easily take correction through mere talk and warnings from their parents.
What is the best for me?
Being very honest here and not trying to please readers or judges, I stand for the traditional method mixed with the talk-to-the-child approach. I was brought up with this approach, both at home and in school. Although life seemed tough and scary back then, I saw how effective the traditional way of upbringing was in correcting us. Personally, I did not give my parents too much trouble in my upbringing, but that does not mean I did not get beaten. I had my fair share because I violated rules a lot. In school, too, the physical method of correction structured us into doing things the right way. I attended a public school, and if you know how rough these schools can be, you would understand that the physical method was very necessary.
Although we live in a modern world now, and things have changed a lot from how they used to be, this does not mean that I will go all out beating my children whenever they do something wrong. No, I will adopt both approaches. I will create room for dialogue to get closer to them and show them how bad their actions are. However, when things get out of hand, I will not hesitate to introduce the beating method to make them understand clearly.
There is a family I am close to in my city of residence, and I love how they combine both methods. The two parents work together, hand in hand, in this regard, and I admire them for it. Sometimes, I see the mother talking very calmly, warning the little girl—out of their three children—about the dangers of what she has been doing. Other times, when the girl refuses to listen, she loses her patience, picks up a cane from the corner of her shop, and hits her. The father does the same. When he notices that the children are being petted too much while being corrected, he picks up his cane and sends the warning directly into their skin. He allows them to cry out loudly for about ten minutes, and after that, he goes to pet them, making them stop crying. In the process, he still explains to them how wrong and disobedient they were, which is why he flogged them.
This balance between talking and physical correction is what I believe works best.
Thanks for reading.
Hmm, this might seem like a controversial topic but I admire your courage in standing for what you want.
I'm also a hands on mom. I don't take nonsense from any child o. There is a time for pampering, petting and all that and there's also a time for using the rod.
In Africa, if you don't use the rod or discipline kids, they don't learn o.
Okay. We agreed on this again.
I was expecting you to come and say you don't hit your baby. Taahhhh!😅
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I love how the father of those girls sends a warning into their skin 😄
Just like my younger brothers when I know I have done justice dialoguing with them and no positive result I just send warning to their skin and we are good to go nice write up dr. 😊
The warning to their skin is a very necessary and suggestive approach. I'm not into the newly adopted way of no beating. No way!😂
That's right, raising children is a difficult job. Every parent has a different character and there is no special guidebook about this. Maybe mothers' instincts already know the best way to do this.
Yeah, the fact that there's no manual for child training makes it very difficult because it works differently to parents and children.
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