Friendly feuds and how did I deal with it.

So, it happened during my college. Two of my best friends had fought so badly that I had no clue how to stop them. Friendships are not always on good terms. it is common that at times there are moments of tension between friends. Sometimes it can happen that some of our friends fight and we have to mediate so that the situation does not go too far.

To understand this further and how it happened, let me explain their state of mind.

A ( friend 1) who is quite hot headed when compared to B ( friend 2).
A and B are both good at talking and choose their words wisely.
A and B are jovial, helpful and friendly in nature.

Now, you must be thinking why the hell were they fighting. What led them to this agression and violence.

So, back then the 3 of us used to always return home together from college. But this day, it was different. We three arrived home seperately.And I had no clue what's wrong. I was the last one to reach home. And while I reached home It took me a while, but I understood something is wrong. The door was locked from inside. I called but no one opened. I called again. Now after 10 mins friend A came out shouting. It was a tricky situation for me to handle. I immediately locked the door from outside ( B was still inside). A was with me ( still shouting and yelling at B) .
While all of this was going on, I was listening to each one of them so that I can understand their point of view. The biggest challenge for me was to not take sides and be fair and respectful.
Both of them kept yelling at each other. And it took me an hour or so, when I didn't hear any of it.
During this time I was equivocally responding to both. I made sure I speak and agree to both so that they have had time to process their emotions and the results of fight.

Next I opened the door and made A talk to B. I ensured that both communicate in a calm, responsive and informative manner. The purpose of this interaction is to come to an agreed-upon resolution.

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I also expressed my point of view, my feelings, so that they both agree on the arguments they were making. The best option when two friends fight is to let them fight for sometime.Let them spill out all the anger.Otherwise that becomes a reason for a cold war.

Now let me summarize, what had happened, why they were fighting.
They both like the same girl. But the girl had no clue about it. I knew both my friends very well. They were more serious about their college studies than getting involved in a relationship.
"Then what led to this argument the both went completely insane"

It was a truth and dare game that led to all of this. In this game they had to go and propose to that girl. If anyone loses the bet will get a slap from other. None of them went to propose the girl by the way. Out of fun A hits B. B hits back 2 or 3 times. And this went on that led to a heated argument and eventually ended in a fight

Moral of the story

Always hear both sides of the story. Try not to take a side and Make sure your friends are both calm.
Let them fight for some time and end the cold War. Once the situation permits, Help de-escalate any conflict by keeping them away from each other for a while.

There are many things in life that make perfect sense on paper and make zero sense in reality. On the other side of that coin, there are many things that don't make any sense in reality but are completely true. This is one of them. I had never imagined two of my friends fighting for silly reason. But then I knew deep inside me that they will come to terms with each other.

This post is in response to @hiveleaners week 29 topic about middle man

Thanks for reading and keep smiling.

Wow.. I learned alot from your entry.
First I must comment that you wrote very well..
Secondly, the issue of allowing your friends to fight for sometime before mediating the issue is a kind of right and wrong at the same time, or let me say it depends on the kind of fight they are into.. if it is a violent fight you wouldn't want to leave them in that state to tear themselves apart but it is true that when the aren't allowed to express themselves it can lead to cold war which you are very correct, I can attest to this... I have learned alot from your entry.. thank you

Btw, it seems you have a little problem with your second tag precisely, we are in edition one not two. This is what I mean (Hlw29e1) instead of (Hlw29e2) and I want to suggest something to you again if you wouldn't mind..
You can use this HML

The line that the cursor is on, the second line..
If you write it very well you will find something like this👇👇
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It will make your post more beautiful..
Check out my own entry so you can see what I mean👇👇
https://peakd.com/hive-153850/@ovey10/the-day-i-will-never-forget

P.S.. The HML contains this sign ''
In-between the sign '' you should paste the link to the photo.. e.g
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When you do that you can click it at the preview interface it will carry you to where you got the picture from..
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Thank you 🙏