Why do people stay in relationships that make them suffer?
This question really bothered me at one point in my life. I have seen so many people who are stuck in relationships that only bring them pain and sadness. Whether it is a romantic relationship, a friendship, or a family member—the question is the same. Why do we often stay with people who treat us badly? Why do we hold on to those relationships?
In my experience, this is often a psychological trap. Many times we are afraid of being alone. It seems like, “Who else will be there?” Sometimes the memories of the good times blind us so much that we learn to accept the bad. Many people also find fault with themselves—thinking, “Maybe I was wrong somewhere.”As bad as it may sound, lack of self-confidence plays a big role in these situations. When we lose faith in ourselves, we become desperate for acceptance from others. Many people think, “I don’t deserve better.” This idea makes it even harder to get out of a toxic relationship.
There is a deeper reason for this: hope. We hope that maybe one day everything will be okay. Maybe that person will change. But this hope prolongs our suffering.Another important factor here is societal pressure. In our society, breaking up means failure. The fear of what people will say keeps us quiet. We are often willing to sacrifice our own needs, happiness, and even mental health to maintain the relationship.
So what do I think the solution is?
In my opinion, the first step is to understand yourself. Ask yourself: “Is this the life I wanted? Am I truly happy?” Then you need education and awareness. Recognizing toxic relationships, creating love for yourself, and making the right decisions.
We need to convince society that maintaining a relationship is not the only goal in life. A relationship should be one where you feel safe, supported, and loved. And if it is not, it is better to leave it.Also, it is very important to stand by those who are in such a situation. To make them understand that they are not alone. Talking to them, listening to their stories, and building their confidence.
Life is too short, but everyone has the right to be happy. Getting out of a toxic relationship may not be easy, but it is definitely possible. Love yourself and choose a life where you are truly happy.
Hoping that there will be change over time is one factor that have made toxic relationship to linger. We should be straight when it comes to toxic relationship.
There is a societal norm that is been broken, hopefully, societal view towards toxic relationships will change.
I deserve better ❤️