I always say and will keep saying that if a child will spoil, he will spoil regardless of how he was brought up. Parenting is hard as it has no manual and most parents try their best to raise their kids in the right way. I would say parenting is more of a try and error thing as most parents, especially first timers have no prior experience on being parents. No one is perfect and same goes with being a parent. Our parents are allowed to try and fail, that’s okay. But, we as kids also have the responsibility of being thoughtful in all our actions.
I’ve seen kids who were raised in the best of households turn to be the worst you can ever think of and I’ve equally seen kids raised in dysfunctional households turn out to be very great kids. Our parents responsibility is to raise us to be responsible and respectable people in the future with good values but they are not responsible for every decision or action we take. To some extent, our parents have a say in our lives while growing up, say from the ages of one to maybe 15 -18 or even more. These days even kids of 13 years try to challenge their parents claiming they’re adults now, thanks to technology.
I grew up with my siblings and I can tell you that we all have different personalities even though we all receive the same upbringing in a way. My elder brother is the type that doesn’t care. He just does whatever he wants to do since he’s the eldest and so our parents trust that he would do the right thing. Then, there’s my sister who’s the calm and reserved one. She doesn’t like trouble and is always in her lane. And there’s almighty me, the one who won’t even sit for a second. I was the chaotic child as I was very stubborn. I had my days though. Some days I would just decide to be stubborn and some days I would just be holed up in my room reading all day.
Our personalities make us who we are and it was okay for all of us to have different personalities. To some extent, I believe we were all raised differently even though we all received the same upbringing. I say this because the way our parents would handle a situation with one person wouldn’t be the same way with the other. Even though I was the stubborn kid, I didn’t cause any trouble or make my parents to worry. It was more like I was just an active child and always needed to be up to something. I wouldn’t deny the fact that I’ve made mistakes in my life and caused troubles at some point in my life and trust me, my parents are not to blame for any of that.
I made those decisions on my own and acted on my own even though these stuff weren’t huge stuff to be considered a crime or anything. Everyone of us is allowed to make mistakes as that’s the only way we can grow. I’ve made mistakes and so have all my siblings but look at us, we all turned out great. A child would do whatever he wants at some point in his like regardless of the training he had while growing up. It’s only children who have conscience and think deeply of the effects of their actions on themselves, their families and loved ones and even society at large that actually don’t go out of their way to cause trouble or commit crimes in society.
We all have different mindsets but it’s our ability to differentiate right from wrong that drives our actions. The best a parent can do is to bring you up right, the rest is up to you to make them proud or go the other way which is entirely your problem in a way and not just theirs. So, as we wish for kids, let’s remember to pray for kids who are thoughtful in all they do and know how to differentiate right from wrong.
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That's a great reflection and a nicely worded essay. Its up to us to learn to differentiate
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I will totally disagree with your opening statement. Yes parenting is hard and not a straight path but giving every child a benefit that they can be great is the key point.
Yes each child has their distinctive way of being raised but not giving up is the key and YES, they child has a 80% in making the choice of how he wants to grow but the parents can guide him/her
Come to think about it, how many of these kids would actually sit down to listen? Most of them feel their parents are old and don’t know what’s up? They have to eventually learn from experience.
Omoo, me I sit down to listen to my mum oo (except when it comes to technology. It's instead vice versa 😅😅).
That adage of a parent seeing it all while sitting is very true. I won't be influenced by what this generation wants to say.
You see.😂
You’re right. Our parents know better than us so we must listen to them.
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You point are valid but I will say parents also have faults in bringing up their children. We have some parents for them to correct their children if they see what they are doing is wrong but they won't, which is bad and can affect the children a lot.
But I’d like to believe that no parent would train his child the bad way.
Each person has their own personality, but the people around them influence how they are, and parents play a significant role in who their children become. There is truth in what you said, but I believe a child is indeed greatly influenced by the type of upbringing they receive. Your point of view is interesting, and I respect that.
You’re right. Children learn from the things they see others do around them but once they grow old, we expect that they should be able to make the right choices.
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I very much agree with you on this, we don't have a manual on how life is to be done or about parenting, so it's not easy, but as we play our role, the child should also yield and be ready to be intentional for a good result to be achieved.
That’s very true. Let’s hope for the best.
That's a good point. We cannot blame parents for everything though as the child has his or her decision to make at the end of the day, no matter how much the parents had tried doing their best for them.
You’re right. But sometimes parents are to be blamed.
Yeah, especially those ones who do not consider a lot of things including their quota to ensuring the best for the child.
That’s very true. They need to do better.
This is the effort of the parents to train the child well and in the future he can live a good life in this society. I tell you, but nowadays we see that kids are watching social media and there are many things like that which is causing the kids to be spoiled and the parents as well. Misbehavior.
Hmm. Some parents just sit and watch their kids do whatever they want which is very bad.
Yeah you are right.