I remember vividly, a few years ago something my mom said in a random conversation with my aunty. I actually don’t remember what they were talking about but the only thing I recall up till today is my mom telling my aunt we grew up so fast and she knows we are all going to leave her alone at home one day. Till today, I think about it and I feel sad.
It’s more like my mom was literally praying for the day we will all start to leave home to lives not to come. Sadly, today, I’m miles away from home and so are some of my sibling. Even though I have other siblings at home with her, I sometimes think about how she feels not having a full house as she always used to have.
I grew up in a home full of love and whatever good thing you can imagine. I wouldn’t say I lacked anything as a kid, I was doing just fine and my parents tried their best to provide my siblings and I with whatever we needed. When it came to parenting, I would say my parents did super well with bringing us up. I really don’t know how they did but trust me, it was magic.
I was brought up in a way that made me feel heard. One thing my parents never did was decide for us what to do. Whether it was about the schools we wanted to attend, the courses we wanted to study, the clothes we wanted to wear, you name it. We were always made to propose what we wanted to do to them and if it was good, we had their support. If it wasn’t, we all would find a way. This way of upbringing trained us to know what we wanted in years to come even as we were young.
Also, we had our own space and privacy. Even as kids, we were brought up to respect each other’s boundaries in the house. I never had my parents or siblings always meddling in my business all the time unless it was necessary. Sometimes I wished I had people in my space all the time because now that I am older, I get pissed off when someone tries to meddle in my affairs. But I guess we all have to adapt sometimes.
To some people, all this is new as they didn’t receive this kind of upbringing. Most at times, it’s our upbringing that differentiates us. Parents on a normal day are overprotective but as they say, too much of everything is bad. Till today, my parents are very protective but not in a toxic way. They just know the right way to do it and I try my best to also not push them away. Afterall, every parent wants what is best for his kids.
Looking at how I was brought up, I always look forward to having my own kids and also experiencing the beauty of raising them up and seeing them grow into great people. Maybe, I’d also experience the pain of having to let them go and shine in the outside world just like I have been given the chance to. Life is indeed beautiful with the right people.
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I love this, your story shows in depth how giving children autonomy and respect can foster independence and responsibility. Balance is really the key.
Thanks for sharing.
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Your parents did great in raising you and your siblings to be independent. It's really nice they allowed you guys to express yourselves on things you didn't like and the ones you did.
Most parents like to impose things on their kids, even tho it's for the best, that's definitely not the right way to go. I've seen a couple of parents do that and their kids always rebel