I was not born and brought up in my home town, imo state, which makes it quite difficult to actually concur with their beliefs, culture and traditions.
According to the beliefs of my people, A child that was born and raised by a woman is bound to be useless to the community. However, a child that was raised by the father, will tend to be more useful than a child raised by a woman, the mother.
My people favours men more than they favour women and honestly, I don't entirely buy into this idea, but then, I can't actually do anything about it cause' they have been living with it for generations.
Inarguably, there are many negative impact that comes with not having a particular parent present in a kids life. One of that impact is the fact that they will never know how motherly/fatherly love feels like.
I know of somebody that grew up with no knowledge of their father. Let's cal that person Adam.
Adam was born in a far distant state, away from his own. He knew little or nothing about his hometown, neither could he even speak his language.
As if that was not enough, when Adam was a kid, his father left him and his mother with two other siblings for another woman who he built a fresh family with.
Even though Adam was small, he tried to reach out to his dad, but to no avail. One day, Adam and his kid brother was in school when their dad brought snacks for him in school. With joy and happiness of seeing his father, Adam gave his dad a huge hug and collected the snacks. Him and his brother were munching on the snacks while holding their father's hand.
After a some time, their father left and they began to feel severe stomach ache. They had to be admitted in the hospital where it was diagnosed that they were poisoned. After that day, hatred grew in Adams heart towards his father.
Time flee, though the pressure from other complete family made Adam miss his father sooo much, the hatred in his heart became motivation for him to keep moving.
Lack of fatherly love and presence caused Adam to make lots of mistakes in life. He can't even hold a proper conversation with guys because all his life, he grew up with his mom and some girls around him. His socializing skills is a 4 out of a 10, but still, Adam never give up.
Adam is smart, no cap, but due to the fact that he grew up among women, he gained the attribute of being too kind which made lots people take of advantage of him. His mom finally decided to take him to the east to learn his people way of life which to him, sucks.
There are lots of disadvantages that came with the absence of his father; Adam is too emotional and knows little about emotion control. Sometimes, Adam talks a lot like a woman. He knows not how to properly behave as a man even though he's a man. From his observation, he saw how other people's father always frown, and he thought that's how things are supposed to be, so, he adopted the same attribute. On the outside, he looks tough, but on the inside, he's just a boy trying to learn what his father was not able to teach him. He's a kid trying to fit in and survive. He developed different personalities. One wants to socialize, but the other don't because of the hatred they harbor for their father. The other thinks that people are the same. They will leave you and try to kill you.
All these things have made life quite difficult for Adam, but still, he never gave up. He has his mom to run up to, but then, the comfort of a mother can never match that of a father. It's easy for a girl child to get comfort from their mother as they get to tell their mom everything, but for a boy child, they really need their father because only their father could relate to what the are passing through.
Gradually, Adam buckled up, ready to face obstacle so long as he gets to his destination. The hate in his heart has existed for over two decades, almost approaching the third. Instead of letting go, he used the hate as motivation to become a better person in the future. A better father to his kids, and a better husband to his wife. Adam never gave up.
When he started becoming successful, his father called him to try to amend his ways. After listening to how his father wants to manipulatively put the blames on his mother, Adam responded in anger. The air was filled with threats from him to his father which made his father stopped calling him. It was a very emotional moment for him as he broke down in the arms of his mother.
At the moment, though there are many negativities in his character, he's rapidly learning and growing to be a better man than his dad ever is. If he's given a gun, truth me Adam will shoot his dad without remorse.
One thing Adam believes is that, being short of one parent is no the end of it. A child that wants to become great will be great irrespective of any challenge they face.
Sometimes, children that have their complete parents turn out to be more useless than the ones with one parent absent.
Though most of the times, their future depends on their upbringing, but then, a child that wants to be good, well be good. Also, a child that wants to be bad, will bad.
Even if a child is brought up in a bad environment, they have right to choose whether to continue living in that condition, or struggle from nothing to become something just like Adam is doing.
Thank you for reading.
Ps: this is not a fictional story. It's real.
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Proper upbringing determines who a child is plus the way a child builds up himself, most children train themselves for what they want to become.
True.
Most children do many things for themselves and don't even think about it.
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Wow this story was amazing and well, it show us the real power that we all have choosing the better way for us in life 💜, because an absence doesn't have to mean a bad future, the power is still in our hands✨
Excellent 👏🏽
Irrespective of the absence of a parent, the power has been bestowed upon us to choose the path of life we follow.
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Una buena historia.
Gracias
Thank you
😊l enjoyed reading this post
Im glad you did
I would like to say here that whatever the world is saying but I believe that when parents are together then children will be brought up well and if they don't then children will miss the love of a mother or father for the rest of their lives and they will never become successful human beings.