Hello, everyone.
Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. While growing up as kids, we all had our different experiences, some of which are relatable and some of which are not.
I had one of the best childhood memories, but that does not mean there were no bad sides. Sometimes we have the best parents who are there to spice up our childhood, but you are not always around them, and there are people out there in the society who are there to mess up your childhood without thinking twice.
Our childhood is what molds us into whatever we are today or will be tomorrow. Childhood is what makes a man or woman; it's very difficult to see a person with a messed up childhood acting right in society. My parents were strict but still gave us the freedom we needed; we could talk and play around but were only punished when we crossed our limits.
My parents showed me all the love on earth; they ensured I was always happy but did not bother to know how things were with me in school. During my primary school days, I was very small, and I had a very big guy in class who everyone was scared of. This guy always picked on me, making sure I never enjoyed any day in school.
Every day I tried to make sure I didn't go to school just to escape Dennis, who was like a thorn in my flesh. But my parents will still force me to go to school, and I could not open up to them and let them know what my problem is.
To date, I have never heard my parents quarrel or raise their voices at each other, but that does not mean they don't have misunderstandings. The thing is, they control themselves and try not to let us see them quarrel. We are adults now, and we can see that sometimes they vibe low-key and don't relate as much as they normally do.
It is no news that African parents find it very difficult to apologize and compliment their kids. Imagine I came second in class sometime ago, and all my mom could say was, "The student that came first, does he have two heads?" Does he pay the school fee more than you? to date, it still hurts me.
Most parents fail to understand that their kids also deserve some appreciation and apologies when the need arises. I don't know what they see apologizing to their kid as.
I am really grateful to God for my parents; they don't throw insults at you. They even find it hard to raise their voice at you not to talk more insults; they prefer using rods. As a result of how strict they were on us, even a stare from them sent a message 😂.
I was at a friend's house once, and his mom was so good at raining insults on him that nothing broke me more than the fact she was doing it right before us and his younger sister.
Thanks for reading my post.
Did your parents ever advise Dennis? I would because bullying is the thing I hate the most.
I never opened up to my parents about Dennis, they did not understand all the signs I was giving them.
Honestly, it takes the grace of God to have a child with a messed up childhood being normal in the society. No matter how hard he/she tries to masquerade it, the scars will still be there.
I think one big issue we have down here in Africa is poor parent to children relationship. Our parents are good, they provide the best for us but they don't give us good attention as it is required. They don't have time to ask us questions, they don't have time to know what goes on in our lives. They let us to live all by ourselves and that has harmed us a lot.
For real one's childhood has a huge impact on how they behave when they grow up, a messed up childhood can result to a lot of things.
You are right Bro, I have picked a lot of messages from this post. Thanks for sharing it with us
These are really interesting points you have here dear friend.
if there is one thing our parents are not is apologizing when they are wrong and it will be really great to learning this things now that its still early thought. Thanks for the insight and eye opener.
We learn from their mistakes and try to patch some loopholes so our kids will not Experience same thing as us.
Thanks for reading.
It's just few of African parents that takes child bullying very serious.
My would laugh at me if I open my mouth that someone if making me uncomfortable in school.
"Can't you fight back?"😭😭
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African parents will always be the same, that's why I could not open up to my parents About Dennis.