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Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. Sometimes I tend to wonder why people choose to stay in a toxic relationship Instead of moving on, you will be busy feeling sympathy for them but they will not want to help matters. Sometimes the people you should avoid helping are those in a toxic relationship because of how they would react to the help you offered in the end, I have seen people in toxic relationships and how they react to the help offered to them. Many friendships have crashed because they tried to drag a friend out of a toxic relationship but instead the friend decides to end their friendship but continue the toxic relationship.
I have had my fair share of getting cut off all because I offered an advise to leave a relationship, I had a female friend who after months of suffering decided to open up about what she has been dealing with in her 8 months relationship and I did exactly what was expected of me by advising her to leave the relationship and move on with her life but guess who she moved on from? Me yes me, a week after I gave her that advise she reconciled with the guy that hits her, and she never spoke to me again. Since then I try to avoid interfering with relationships, I don't even offer relationship advise anymore as I just tell you to do what you think is best for you before I will have more friendships come crashing down.
The truth is that it is very difficult to save people in toxic relationships as 90% of them are there by their own choosing and not because they are scared of what the toxic partner will do to them if they attempt to leave, I watched a video on tiktok where a girl was interviewed and she openly confessed that her partner beats her but after he does he apologises with wigs and bags and for that reason she cannot leave, so you see there is no saving someone like that.
In most cases many of the ladies in toxic relationships are those who cannot do anything for themselves, those who are completely dependent on the man or woman, it is only a few people who would not treat like a piece of trash when they see how much you depend on them for survival. Some won't leave a toxic relationship because their every need comes from the same partner that wants to send them to their maker, and without that partner they most at times feel they cannot survive, but the same partner is killing you already why not leave?
In some cases people stay in a toxic relationship because of the fear of what the toxic partner would do, so in order to help people leave toxic relationships our security men and armed forces should up their game to ensure safety for those who wish to leave but are scared of what the other party is capable of doing.
Others stay because they claim to love the partner putting them through a lot and feel they won't be compatible with any other person and won't want to try Instead they hope that their toxic partner turns a new leaf but in most cases toxic partners stay toxic forever, so all in the name of love you would want to go through hell for the rest of your life? For me I doubt there is any valid reason to actually stay in a toxic relationship, no matter what the relationship offers your health, you respect and dignity should be placed above every other thing and staying in a toxic relationship takes all of that away from you.
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We have similar opinion, like I said in my post we can't help people who don't want to be helped. Just like you said, some people choose to be in a toxic relationship due to reasons known to them, so no matter the kind of advice given to them all they think about is that thing that ties them to the toxic relationship.
We really cannot help people who do not want our help, you can offer them help and they will trash it completely.
Depending on the other person in a relationship is the root cause of spreading toxicity because when one knows the other person is depending on them, they take it for guarantee
You have said it all my friend.
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This was very interesting to read; people stay in toxic relationships for reasons best known to them.
Some give silly reasons that the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. "As how?"
My dear try the angel you don't know before you conclude.
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