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Good day, people of Hive. Welcome to my blog. I had not posted on Hive in a long time because of my laziness but have determined to be more active this year and always post maybe four to five times in a week. So let's go back to today's topic, which is "Even When Toxic," but first what does toxic mean. Toxic is something that's harmful, unhealthy, and can cause damage, emotional pain, or even stress. So let's dive into it.
It's so surprising how often we see people staying with those who hit and treated them badly; this could happen in relationships, with friends, and even family members. But the question now is why do people stay in such toxic relationships? Why did they choose to remain or stay with the person who causes them pain and stress? I will mention few of them that I know.
Firstly, as we all know, love is so powerful that it can sometimes destroy someone or heal someone. When we care deeply for someone, it can be so hard to stay away from such a person even if the person is hurting us, and we call that Emotional attachment. Many people who are in toxic relationships or marriages always believe that their boyfriend or husband will change even when they beat them to the point or extent that they are admitted to the hospital. They always hold onto the good days, how things were before, thinking that they will eventually change when the time comes or go back to the way they were before. Even if they want to leave, the emotional attachments/connections will make it difficult for them to leave.
Secondly, we have some people who only stay in such relationships because of the fear of being alone, because nobody likes to feel lonely; we all love to be surrounded by people we care about, not the vice versa. Some people find the idea of being alone scarier than staying in a toxic relationship. They will always think that if they leave the toxic relationships, and they don't find someone else or what will people think about them, especially if the guy has done so much for the lady? This fear of being alone keeps them trapped, even when they know within themselves that they deserve much better than that.
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Thirdly, the reason why people stay in toxic relationships is Dependence. Those people stay because they depend on the toxic person; it could be financial dependence, where the person is the one providing money or shelter for them, or emotional dependence, where they think only the toxic person can understand them and no one else.
However, the reason why some people stay in toxic relationships is that those people often doubt their worth. The victims may feel or think that they don't deserve better or believe that the reason for the toxic behaviour is their fault. For example, in a toxic relationship where the girl is constantly insulted or abused, she might think maybe it's her fault, or she's the problem for the toxic behaviour. Such things like that can make people stay in such toxic relationships and suffer in different ways.
Furthermore, another reason is Family pressure. In some societies, especially the family members, if the husband is toxic and constantly beating or harming the wife and the wife reports to her family that she's no more interested in the marriage, the family members will persuade the wife to stay and endure that marriage no matter what because every marriage has it's own problem and that the husband's house is a lesson house, especially if the husband is the one taking care of the wife's family. Family pressure like that can make the wife feel like leaving that toxic marriage is not an option; they have to endure it.
Lastly, the toxic people often manipulate their victims, making them feel guilty, worthless, or responsible for their problem, saying if they leave the relationship, no one else will love them like how they love them, just to manipulate or trap them (the victims) to stay in that relationship.
What can be done to reduce the rate of such acts?
It's not easy to leave a toxic relationship, but there are ways to reduce the rate of such acts or people who stay in such relationships.
(1): To build support systems. Support system in the sense that they have someone, whether family, friends, or trusted people, who can give advice and encourage those victims so that they will know they are not alone.
(2): We should always encourage them and teach them how to be independent, both emotionally and financially.
(3): We must educate people to understand what toxic relationships look like and that it's okay to leave such relationships.
In conclusion, toxic relationships are very harmful, just like I said earlier, but many people stay in such relationships because they feel scared of being alone, manipulated, or emotionally attached. To help such victims, we need to show them that they are not alone, that they have someone, and also teach them what healthy relationships look like.
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The family pressure part is something very real, because often fear ends up becoming something unfortunately "normal" in the person's life and so the person doesn't even realize how bad the atmosphere is in their home.
Yes you're right, family pressure is something that's very real.
People are enduring things, and the fear of what people would say always makes so many people stay in an abusive relationship not knowing that they are giving more privilege to the abuser.
Yes, the reason most people endure such relationships is because they fear of what people would say about them that's why they stay is such abusing and toxic relationships.
Toxic relationship is bad and has sent many beyond the other side of life less abstain from it thanks for this piece
Yes, toxic relationship is bad and I can never pray for my family or friends to have any toxic relationship because it's very dangerous.
Yes
Thank you, pandex.
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