Recently, I'm starting to notice that a lot of young people in this generation no longer wants to get married and I think it's because of what we see online, of how terrible most marriages turn out to be these days.
I have this friend of mine who will always tell me that he has no plans to get married, and his reason for that is because he sincerely doesn't think he can be with one woman, and would rather not get married but have kids, than get married and cheat on his wife.
His reasons, to me were understandable because if we're not bringing religion into this conversation, he's actually doing the right thing, which is not putting a lady (his wife) in a position where he would get to hurt her constantly due to his infidelity.
So I do understand him, but if there's something I do not agree with, it is the mentality that getting married is almost equivalent to you locking yourself up and stopping you from doing certain things you normally would do when you weren't married.
Earlier today, a lady friend of mine had uploaded something on her status, talking about how she plans on enjoying her life to the fullest before eventually getting married. The way she said it, it felt like it was a bad thing, like getting married was like retiring from enjoying life.
Unfortunately, she's not the only one who has this same mentality and I honestly feel it's wrong. Honestly, I think you can be married and still do everything you want to do, partying, clubbing and whatever it is you think you can only do when you're not married, you can do all of that.
The way I see it, the only thing you can't do is cheating, which also is something you shouldn't do even if you weren't married but you were in a relationship. So unless it is something immoral, you actually can do almost anything you want with your partner and enjoy your marriage.
Although, the reason I feel a lot of people do think this way, is because they most times use their parents as an example for married people, and knowing the kind of parents we have, how old school they are, we hardly see them do fun stuff together, so we just assume that's how our lives will be the moment we say "I do" to our partners.
But the truth is that it doesn't have to be so. I have a friend of mine who got married to his wife two years ago and they've purposely not had any kids because all they wanna is enjoy each other's time and have fun before eventually making a family of their own.
That to me is a good plan, because another thing most people do the moment they get married is have kids, and they end up not having time for themselves.. Our parents did the same thing, and now we all think that's how marriages should be.
Well that's not it. Marriage can be fun, I haven't been married yet, but I just know it, so don't shy away from it, unless you're like my friend who knows he can't be loyal to one partner.
getting married is never like retiring from enjoying life biko.. it's just the way you designed your marriage to look it. For couples who spice up their marriage, they enjoy it to the fullest. Even with children, sometimes, they keep the kids with their parents and go on vacation for some days, all alone having fun time together
Nothing should be an excuse please but planning matters
As for your friend...tell him that nkem said he should rethink...that's what I have for him😍
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I totally agree with you Nkem, I also do not think getting married is like retiring... And just like you said, it's the way you design the marriage because couples could always spice things up.
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