As humans, we always want to see ourselves as someone who's doing the right thing in every situation we find ourselves in, even when we're not. And unfortunately, the fact that we think we're always right gives us more motivation to keep doing that thing, to keep up with that argument or quarrel with that person, not knowing that we're the ones who are wrong.
This is why most people don't have any form of sympathy when they do certain things to people because to them, they're doing what's right and sometimes, it doesn't matter if someone else is suffering for it, as long as they believe they're right.
Luckily for me, I've been teaching myself how to kinda have an out of body experience in certain situations. And by an out of body experience, I mean a situation when I get to look at things as a third party and really judge the situation to see if I'm truly right with my actions or not.
So basically how I do it is let's say I'm having an argument with someone and we both just can't seem to come to an agreement, I do this thing where I take a moment to ask myself if I truly am one hundred percent confident that I'm right, and then I try to look at the situation from a third person's pov, like a total stranger, with no emotions involved.
Now although I haven't really perfected this yet, because sometimes I do tend to be bias and believe that I'm right, there have been situations where I ended up agreeing with the other party involved after using this method because there's this thing it does where it enables me to see things a bit clearly.
I apologise if my explanation isn't very understandable, I'm just finding it difficult to get the right words to describe this out of body experience that I'm talking about.. But basically, whenever I do that, for that few secs it takes, in my head I no longer see myself as someone who's always right, I see myself as a stranger who's having an argument with another stranger, and my job is to determine which of them may or may not be correct.
It's a mental thing where I get to seperate my mind from my body as two seperate people (my body being the one having the argument and my mind being the third party who's going to decide who's right or wrong).
I think it's interesting that you mention this 'out of body experience' - it sounds like a valuable tool for gaining perspective, even if it can be challenging to tap into.
I can consider situation neutrally and that helps me to avoid lots o trouble. I think it's very easy for me because I have a robotic mentality.