Transactional Love

in Hive Learners2 years ago

Before I go fully into this blog, I will like to state it out there that everything I say here is based on what I've seen happening in Nigeria only and I have no idea if it's the same thing everywhere else.

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Why does this generation think that being in a relationship is a business transaction? I mean I've been in the midst of people and hear them say things like "what will he or she give to me if I should agree to be in a relationship with them?"

Its almost as if no one gives a damn about love anymore, and now they all date based on what you can offer them. Some few days ago, I read this blog where a lady said that she has no plans on falling in love with anyone anytime soon because there is nothing like true genuine love anymore. She said people now go into relationships this days mainly because of two things, sex and financial support. And yet when someone calls them bad names, they get upset when in reality, all they do is prostitution disguised as something else.

When I read the blog, I immediately got reminded of this female friend of mine who has been in and out of different relationships simply because all what she cares about is the money. Once it looks like the dude she's with is starting to get broke, she breaks up with him and move to the next one.

Its a sad thing really and unfortunately, we can't talk to them about these things because they're mostly going to tell you not to judge them and let them live their lives because it's theirs to live (which is one hundred percent true by the way).

Looking back at all of this, it's really sad. This is the reason why I hear people joking about how whenever they're ready to find a wife, they will pretend like they are poor so that the lady will love them for themselves and not for their wealth.

But with the way this whole relationship transaction is getting out of control, it might take them a while to find themselves a lady who will love them for who they are and not for what they can offer because it seems like that's the route everyone is taking right now.

There is no true love anymore, only transactional ones.

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 2 years ago  

This is very sad. I really do find it hard to believe in unconditional love.

Everyone will definitely love because of something. It is not so good how love is been abuse and marriage are being broken regularly

 2 years ago  

Well most people will say love alone is not enough and maybe that's true, but this days, love has been completely eliminated.. There's no love anymore.

Everything is really running after money.

 2 years ago  

Yup, and it's sad.