Life has presented each and everyone of us with different option and choices all of which can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on the way you decide to do things...
Life is best enjoyed in the company of friends and family depending on the kind of being one his, there are some people who prefer to be alone in the company of different devices, there are also some other people who prefer to be in the midst of many including friends, enjoying and having beautiful moments and there are also some people who likes to be by themselves in the company of books and other things...
Where do you fall in all the categories i listed above???? i know where i stand in that various categories i listed above and you might be thinking it is a bit weird to be two things at a time, well the second one was just by choice and an additional habit...
I am someone who finds pleasure and happiness in the company of many, i prefer being with friends and relatives than being alone by myself and also at the same time i love being alone and also in the company of many devices.
I was hurt by a friend and that made me to crawl into my one man shell for a while but communication helped us get over it, join me as i take you on how communication helped me ....
I WAS HURT...
The kind of bond i share with most of my friends are the bonds that exist between siblings of the same father and the same mother, friends are supposed to look out for each other, check up on each other and also be there for each other in times of need...
After high school and all my friends went their ways, there were few of my close friends left and our abode were not too far from each other and i thought that it was a good thing that i had some friends close by at least, little did i know that all will change when one gets into higher institution...
Almost all my friends gained admission into tertiary institution last year and i was happy for them and after they all went we started communicating from social media platforms and calling and i thought they would still be the same friend i had before they got admission, I didn't know i was a fool...
For about two breaks they had in school, i am always the one going to his house to check up on him as a friend would do, i would wait for him and check his welfare before i go back home...
I did that for quite a number of times as we were close by until i thought to myself that how come he doesn't use his own initiative to come once to check up on me afterall i have always been the one visiting and checking up on him...
I didn't say anything to him and i continued doing my part as a good friend until he hurt me, what did he do???
One of our mutual friend stays very far, he resides in his school's home town and one day, i saw my closest friend making a video that he his traveling down to his place to check up on him, i felt like it was a joke and didn't take it serious...
The guy was a mutual friend and before, we would tell each other if we wanted to go visit a friend to know if we are both going but he didn't even tell me about it until i asked him and confirmed it and i wished him well...
Deep down i was hurt, i have always been checking up on him as a friend and even if we stay quite close he has never once this year stepped in my house to visit me and he claimed to be my friend and he couldn't even check up on me who stays close by but could travel far to see another..
I felt hurt and waited upon his arrival and guess what happened??
Oh you were expecting me to start up an argument?? oh i didn't do that but i went to him as a friend..
I went to him as a friend and told him of how he hurt me and then he told me the reason why he had to go and he explained to me and apologized to me and we went to my house that day and had fun...
At first i thought i should argue with him over it but i remember how communication is the best way to settle misunderstanding and that was what i did and lo and behold all was well between us and then we smiled and continued our relationship as buddies...
In summary, i realized if i had gone to him with violence, we would have lost the friendship we had and that would have been a pain to us both..
In conclusion, i acted with understanding and maturity and that was what solved the issue we had and now our bond still remain strong...
THANKS FOR READING AND HAPPY SUNDAY
detaching from toxic friendship is important
Hmm this wasn't toxic though
Wow, you are a wise guy, if it was another person seeing his friend not returning his visitation, and visiting a faraway friend, without letting him know, he won't talk to him again, and just decide that his friend has changed, and not the person he use to know. Communication matters in everything, with what you just narrate, you guys' relationship would have crumbled if you didn't talk to him, about how you feel towards his behaviour.
Yeah that is true, wisdom is very important and communication helped us get better, thanks for stopping by ❤️❤️❤️
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Not everyone would be as understanding as you were especially when they’re hurt. You did the right thing
Indeed, proper communication is everything, nice post!
Yeah that is true and thank you for stopping by ❤️
You’re welcome🤗
I know how many things I've lost so this was very important for me, not just communication but good communication is key. Open your mouth, talk, say something.