Ingratitude is part of human nature and the earlier we understand the better for us not to be disappointed. As we all know it is impossible to satisfy humans no matter what you do it will never be enough, This is where letting go of any wrong act towards you comes in though it might be difficult at times it just has to be so that one can live a happy life.
It takes a lot to make sacrifices for people and in the end when it is not appreciated it causes pain and heartbreak. I didn't see helping someone in trouble as a big deal and this is why it is so easy for me to stand in for anyone who needs my help. I once helped a friend by going as far as taking a loan just to make sure I helped her out when she was in dire need of help and didn't see anyone to help her through the situation. Knowing fully well the demands related to the loan, I went ahead to took the loan just to help her. After the whole scenario, she is to pay back the money lent to her as agreed which must be paid before the due date given to me for repayment.
As the date drew near, I reminded her and her reaction that day made me feel bad because she didn't seem to be interested in the discussion as I was the one who took the loan and not her so if they disturbed anyone it would be me. "I will try and look for the money don't bother me with that," she said, I was surprised that was coming from her. I smiled and let go of it because I felt she might be going through a lot. " Try more ma'am, I don't want them calling me to show up" I replied to her then she looked at me angrily.
It was then I started feeling bad, thinking "Hope I hadn't made a mistake?" I asked myself. Two days before the money was due for payment, the company sent a reminder to me to remind me. I put a call through to her and she snapped at me and hung up, at that point I was scared because I didn't know what would happen if I was unable to pay back. I sent messages to her and no reply, I called her severally but she wasn't picking up, I went to her house and I wasn't able to see her, it was then I knew I was in big trouble.
The set day came and I couldn't pay, they started calling me and sending messages over and over again. I couldn't reach my friend who was to pay, I was left in a dilemma, I struggled and tried my best to raise the money. I paid back after a week of delay and I was charged some extra cash to make up for the time I delayed. After the payment, I finally met my friend in a mall, though She was shocked to see me and I just walked past her but after a while, I walked up to her and expressed myself, letting out everything in my mind against her and that was the end of our friendship.
After the scenario, I learned a lesson not to go the extra mile for anyone because, in the end, it might not be an appreciated effort leaving you with regrets for life. Today we are no longer friends but we greet when we see just to fulfill all righteousness. Ingratitude towards an effort made to help you in times of trouble is a bad attitude possessed by many in our society today which is ruining good relationships.
Thanks for your time and your comments will be appreciated.
Ahh you went far to take loan for person, people are wicked and desperate as well.
She could not consider the embarrassment the people are causing for you . You must have learnt your lesson from this now, not to stand for person when they want to borrow money or borrow money for them.
Yes ooooo a big one sef
Big mistake ever, taking a loan for someone. Their reaction later will make you regret and never try it again.
I know of a woman who found herself in such a situation.
It got to a point where the people who gave the loan started threatening the person that was only trying to kind.
Life experience is indeed the greatest teacher
It is a great teacher and I've learnt to never try such again
One needs to be careful oo
Very careful
I think we should always offer what we can offer and never exceed that which could potentially harm us.
Lesson learnt
Ahhh my dear, taking loan out to help was a very risky move in the first place 🤦♀️
It's even worse that she didn't appreciate it, what an annoying experience! It's good that you told her how you felt about it.
I had to let her know my mind so that I can move on
Yeah, you did the right thing
I hope she paid back eventually?
People can be heartless and shameless. It's bad they do not value relationships
Paid ke nibo
It is well
it was really a horrible experience, what a pity that money and lack of character ended a friendship, but that ex-friend of yours was very naughty to you and did something really terrible.
I believe you did the right thing by getting away from her, moving away. We don't need people like that around.
It was a great lesson 4 me
I imagine, the good thing is that it's over and so with the sun rising on a new day, our being adapts to life's experiences.
Human can be funny