oh I think I am getting you. I feel why people say this:
You're not normal, do this, you can do that or take some pills to get up again
...is because they actually care for them and want to help them out to get better. That is why they make suggestions on what they can do to feel better. ..
I don't think feeling depressed is totally okay. Something is wrong and must have caused one to feel that way. So giving them time is not a bad idea but it is necessary to always check on them so they would not be suicidal. you get me?