While Growing up, I had a secret that I carried and it felt like a heavy weight, it didn't feel like actually , it was indeed a heavy weight,It was just something I could not share with anyone and not even with those that were closest to me. Yeah This secret was my stigma, it was a constant reminder of something I could not actually change.
I just don't go into the exact details, but know that it was just something that made me feel ashamed myself and alone. And I thought that sharing it with someone I trusted well would help me feel better, but it only made things so worse.
So this stigma grew, and I began to hate myself gradually, I just did not want to think about itat all, but it was just always there, haunting me. I felt like I was living a lie, and it was eating me away.
Yeah, But now I have learned that dwelling on this stigma is not really the answer, It is not healthy to hate yourself or try to hide who I am, instead, I have learned to focus on accepting myself.
You know Self acceptance is about loving and accepting yourself, flaws and all that comes with being you as a person ,It is about recognizing that everyone just has their own struggles in life and so their imperfections, cause that's what life is all about
See when you accept yourself, you just start to see that your stigma does not define you, you are more those your secrets and yeah those flaws too. Of course you are a unique and valuable person, deserving of love and all the respect you can get
If you're struggling with a stigma like I did some times ago, so here are some tips that might help you.
- Don't dwell on it: Try not to focus too much on your stigma, just Instead, focus on the things that make you very happy and feeling fulfilled.
- Practice self care: Try to Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health, please just do things that makes you feel good things like ,exercise, meditation, or spending time with your loved ones.
- Seek support: so while it can be hard to share your stigma with others,by just having a supportive network can really make a big difference, see just Consider talking to a therapist
- Focus on your strengths: You see rather than dwelling on all your weaknesses or flaws, try to focus on your strengths and the things that you are good at.
- Be kind to yourself: Also Remember that everyone makes mistakes and has flaws, So be gentle to yourself, and yeah try not to beat yourself up over the stigma.
So Living with a stigma can be really tough, but it is not impossible, see by focusing on self acceptance and practicing what we call self care, you can learn to truly overcome your stigma and live a happier, healthier life.
Yeah and remember that you are not alone, and that you are not defined by this stigma. You are a unique and valuable person, Always have that at the back of your mind.
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We all have secrets that we keep buried within us. It makes us ashamed of ourselves in ways we can't explain to others. I'm glad you were able to overcome it because it mostly lead to people feeling inferior to others.
I did overcome but not without getting hurt first . Sha we move
Like you, I've carried around thoughts and secrets that made me feel ashamed for a long time. But over time we grow up and learn to accept ourselves the way we are
Yeah, cos if we want others to even accept us, we have to accept ourselves first