There's always a lesson to be learnt from every situation. I totally understand that urge to give a friend a surprise visit; if the friend was actually around, you may have spent more time at he place but good thing she was out.
Time management is key and it takes a genius to properly optimize time.
I came in from #dreemport.
You are right...I would have spent more time with her without realising the negative effects on the kids
Lesson learnt anyways
Thank you for your time