In my contribution today I really want to emphasize on why done people really do things just to impress others people and harm themselves in the other way round, how on earth would someone be impressing other people by caring to others people and leave themselves just uncared and abandon.
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I am not saying one that one should not impress the one he or she is dating or the one he or she loves, but count me out of it, because change is constant, you will not be able to do it every day of your life so is better you leave the pretending aspect and bring out your real you, because pretense is not good.
Life as thought me so many lesson, to the extent that life as become my greatest professor while I still remain a good student not yet to be graduated, I am still in the school of learning much from life except on less you want to give up, its said the day a man stops learning is the day he died. So as far as you're still living life, you keep learning one or two things every single day with having the experience of life.
Before coming up with this article I must confess that I was once really a victim of impressing others people more than my ownself, but as it's said that you gather experience from your past mistakes, though the past mistakes can not be corrected anymore but it's used in order to overcome the ones that are coming ahead in the future.
Though it will sounds as past glory and past story but I believe someone will derive a lesson from this, i became the only one who was taking care of my father since those of my senior brothers has gone out some to their different homes also taking some responsibilities having their own family too.
At this point I was the one controlling the home taking good care of dad and running others domestic chores, then I was financially stable though I didn't demands for money from my brothers but they were the one who came up with the idea of paying me to be more focus about dad, and I insisted not to collect but they said no that is just an appreciation.
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Let me just shorten the story, since I had money enough and I didn't have knowledge about investing and so on, I used it to impress others by making them not to feel bad, giving out money unnecessary and some of them when I borrowed them they will refuse to return back saying that I didn't give them any money, so to impress them and for peace to reign I will forget about the money after all I have more.
But to my greatest surprise these same people that I used to impress with all I had, sometimes I will even abandon myself just to make them feel good and happy, are the same set of people that are calling me names like I am senseless that I am not using my money wisely, am not using my money to do any good thing at all.
Due to to the saying that says you're either living life or life is living you, your life belongs to you and my life also belongs to me, who is owning who? Then why do you think I will deprived myself of my right just to impress others again?.
People are so calm and humble, but for the fact that people are so calm and humble shouldn't let others to see them as worst fools, People been so respectfully and humble doesn't mean that they are trying to impress you in one way or the other, don't think that they are so stupid and naive, they are not just shy, they know their right and what to do at a given time. We need to value our own self why giving respect and be humble to others.
"If someone wants to use my humility as timidity in order to impress himself then I am ready to change the music tune".
If you can assist people in doing some certain things let it be from your mind, let it not be that it's people that tells you to do for them, in such for them to be happy with you, there's no one that will ever be happy with you forever, it could be when you stop helping them as you use to that is when they will really start telling words behind your back, so we should always be careful with people because the heart of men are not saying good thing against us.
Like it is likely said change is constant so as impression is temporary, so the true secret is that people no longer care about others impressing them knowing it's just for sometimes that it would not be forever, some will even see it as if your are passing an entertaintment to them.
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So in my own view and my own past experience I feel that impressing people doesn't worth anything, because people are so likely to forget things so easily, I would rather say that it is much wasting of time and energy with resources.
Finally in conclusion living in other to impress others doesn't really worthwhile because the people your are living to impress might not really see your effort, you can't tell people's mind they can likely harm you with words from thier mouth, and at the end you will be the one lamenting had I no.
you are not truly living your life, you will be impressing others while having much pains inside your heart, some times you will be crying in secret while people you impress are enjoying openly, this can really cause you much expenditure of high rate, because it might really involve much spending of funds on material things just to keep impressing the person.
Thanks for reading..
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