Saturday. November 12, 2022
Let's talk about Toxic Relationships. I know almost all of us have experienced this kind of relationship throughout our lives. This is normal after all. It is normal in a way that we will meet someone who will make our hearts beat faster in the beginning. They will make us very happy at first but in the end, they will also give us headaches for many reasons. Sometimes we don't just experience it once, but we experience this kind of relationship many times and over and over again. We often stumble upon the wrong person.
What makes a relationship Toxic?
A relationship becomes toxic when you no longer get along with your partner. You are arguing over even small or simple things. Or, when one of you is just giving you pain and resentment. It's as if your partner doesn't care how you feel anymore. He/she just does everything he wants whether it hurts you or not. Sometimes it also causes you to no longer know yourself because you can no longer act the way you want. It seems like you are always adjusting yourself just to hold on to your partner. You are having a hard time but you still don't want to give up. You are repeatedly hurt but you still hope. You have nothing left for yourself, but a toxic relationship.
Signs of Toxic Relationship.
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Fear of Confrontation: We are afraid to confront our partners whenever we feel or find out that they are doing something strange. We are afraid because maybe instead of explaining, he will just be angry with you. We are also afraid that we may not like what they will answer either they will admit it or they will deny it and you will be the one who will be turned out to be bad.
Dishonesty: As time goes on, their honesty also disappears. Sometimes even though we already know they are lying they still do it. Even if your two eyes can see what they are doing, they still deny it. What comes out of their mouths is just lies even though they know that we are hurt by what they are doing.
Continued Disrespect: They are also losing respect for us. They can no longer respect us even as a person. They no longer care if your feelings hurt. Sometimes they almost step on your personality too, especially if you try to fix your relationship and you try to correct their mistakes.
Lack of Support: You have always been able to support each other. In every dream or things that you want to do or achieve you are always together. You support each other's decisions. You always have each other's back because you promise to support each other and leave no one behind no matter what happens. Until one of you suddenly changes and seems to have left you on the air as if he no longer cares what you do with your life. The old promise and support to each other seem to have suddenly disappeared.
Miscommunication: You also come to the point that you no longer understand each other because of a lack of communication. You will start to lose time with each other, which you think is ok as long as you are still together. Until your relationship breaks down, you often don't get along and you'll always fight. That almost every day you two argue. And both of you will not give up on every argument. That's when you start blaming each other for the outcome of your relationship.
Resentment: Because the two of you are arguing more and more, this is where your resentment with each other will begin. You will start to feel that you are always wrong and he is always right. You feel that he is taking advantage of your weakness and you feel that he is stepping on your personality as well. You will start to feel that he has given or caused you nothing but resentment.
Jealousy: Jealousy is also one of the reasons for having a Toxic Relationship. The feeling that your partner is always paranoid or suspicious of you. It's as if you're always doing something wrong even when you're not doing anything. That kind of relationship is choking. It's as if you don't have the right to act the way you want because, with every move you make, he thinks differently about you.
All of these toxic reasons in a relationship will do nothing right for you. There are only two choices you have to make when you experience it all. It's either you're going to try to fix and talk about any problems you two have or you're going to walk away. It would be better if you could fix the problem. For the sake of your relationship. But if you're already choking and you can't seem to breathe, it's better to stop, stay away. It's harder in a relationship where you're the only one holding on. It's hard to be the only one who loves. It's hard for you to always adjust for him. It's hard for you to hope that everything will be fine, especially if your broken relationship is too vague.
Closing Thoughts:
When you experience all of this with the wrong person, don’t feel sad or discouraged. Because it only means one thing. He is not the person for you. He is not deserving of your love. There is someone even more destined for your love. He is the person who will love you despite the obstacles in your relationship. He is the person who will understand and forgive you for every mistake you make. He is the person who will help you change the things you must change in yourself. And most of all he is the person who will never leave you, as long as he lives he will be with you and love you until the last moment of his life.
If a conversation doesn't help to set the record straight, it's best to walk away and move on with your life. I think that if there is no such communication between partners, relationships tend to be toxic. Excellent recommendations.
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